I've been dealing with diagnosed depression for about two years now. I am currently a 21 year old student who attends a top public university in the country. I am involved in clubs and hold leadership positions, participate in many social events, and am lined up with a great career post-graduation.
However, I just don't feel happy and nothing I do changes this. I want to start working out and lifting, but never seem to have the motivation to get up and go to the gym. I guess this is partly because I've never lifted in the past and don't know where to start. I don't have a guide on how to start going to the gym by myself.
As for the depression, I refuse to take medication and feel like being more physically active might help my mental state. Any advice for someone like me? I want to get in shape but don't have the motivation. I don't care about drinking or going out with friends as much, my entire college experience has been this. I want to work on myself and become better. This is literally my only problem and I feel like it is the only thing holding me back.
francthegreat 2y ago
sounds like you don’t know struggle. why would you need motivation with a life like that? respectfully, stop being a bitch
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SheLarror1234 2y ago
Tough, but i agree with franc.
College sometimes makes you a big bitch. Every achievement is like a penis measuring contest, only as deep as a paper or title. All with the ultimate goal of being a better slave. Are you doing what is right and what you like?
With all respect, a good offense can be a great defense. Cut out some of that nonsense from your life first. Get away from it.
I do agree with op about depression though. I don't believe in depression being fixable "medically". Anything requiring medicine or a constant fix of something is a short term solution. And yea, even if you do discover the help, keep in mind it wont change the world. If the world is shitty, your going to eventually step in shit.
Anyways, with lifting and all things, you can start by setting a goal. Do you want to be ripped? If yes, keep lifting and go crazy about being ripped. Envision yourself at the finish line, and if thats what you really desire, do it. If your not feeling the end goal then you might as well find another thing to do. is it about deciphering the world, with knowledge and proof of god and conspiracy? Do that. If its about being better at relationships? TRP sidebars. Then keep going until your satisfied with your growth in that aspect.
Scorpion69_ 2y ago
Motivation comes and go, its an emotion.
What you need is discipline
hannulv 2y ago
You will never have the motivation to start. You must simply force yourself to do things that will improve your life. There are three critical things to start with: sunlight, diet, and exercise.
Depression is a biological defense caused by poor diet and lack of sunlight. In humanity's ancestral past, starvation, and freezing were major causes of death. It's very similar to hibernation. Depression forces you to hunker down and conserve resources. It's generally triggered by a poor diet and lack of sunlight.
To get out of your funk, also do a dopamine detox. Most of us get scrambled from too much easy dopamine. No screens, no porn, no tv, no news, no websites, no gaming, no gambling, no social media, no drugs, no booze for about 3 weeks. You can read books, go on walks, jogs, hikes, etc. Eat whole, unprocessed foods, take zinc, magnesium, and vitamin D. The depression may get temporarily worse for a week or two.
Don't calorie restrict. Get 1.5 hours of sun a day if you're light-skinned, and 3+ if you're dark. If you can't get any sun, buy a Seasonal Affective Disorder light and use it.
Run at least a mile every day. If you're too scared to learn weightlifting from reddit and youtube make an appointment with a personal trainer to learn basic routine and form for a beginner program like StrongLifts or Starting Strength. Keep your training appointment. You will feel better in no time.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
I always find anal absorption of semen really perks me up. That and hitting the tanning booth to crank my vitamin D up when I'm stuck in N. America during winter.
MrSupreme 2y ago
Mind over body mate,order your body to get up and lift and do some cardio, you will feel much better afterwards and it becomes addictive to just see the results all over your body and overall strength, it translates into wellness for the mind too.