I just discovered TRP and I realized by reading that I never put any effort into my game. When I go out with friends, all we do is talk to eachother: I never even try to approach women. The last couple of years of college sucked because of COVID, so no parties = not a chance to pick up a girl. But I realized that even if COVID wouldn't have happened, I would probably still have no romantic success by now. I"m 21 years old, is it too late to still turn around my romantic life? This is my last year as a college student, I fear that once I start working I will be able to go out less and have even less of a chance to meet someone.
As for my romantic life: I only kissed a girl (who had a crush on me) once when I was drunk, 0 experience besides that. When girls are interested in me or when I'm heavily interested/have a crush on a girl, I become very anxious and I just lock up. I've realized over the years that texting/chatting is way too easy, while talking with a crush irl feels nearly impossible for me without shutting down. I would say I'm not ugly, kind of tall at 6'3" and I know how to socialize (friends even tell me I'm a pretty smooth talker), but I'm pretty retarded when it comes to flirting with girls. When I was around 12/13 years old, I was very 'cute' (like Justin Bieber I guess, not manly) and popular among girls but I had 0 interest in them at that point. Often girls would admit they had a crush on me and I'd reject them or ignore them. I had a crush that I would text everyday, but when I saw her in school we never talked. I often took the blue pill route because it's less stressful but obviously no success at all once you're in that zone. Or I would be very serious to women, once a girl told me I was 'cold' and 'unemotional' Used Tinder since 18 years old but it's a nightmare, usually get 10 likes and then I delete my account again. I once had a 6/10 at a bar that approached me three times during the evening, but each time I ditched her and went back to my friends because I wasn't really interested in her. I once was very loudly enjoying myself with my friends in a bar, when a 9/10 approached me (seemingly interested because of the fuss I created). I talked to her and it was a good friendly conversation (no escalation though), but then after a while she just headed back to her friend group. It left me kind of confused, did she want me to make a move or something and left because she was disappointed? I still don't really know how I could have handled that better, maybe I should have gone after her. More recently this year, I talked to a 8/10 that I knew through a friend at a bar. Everything was going well and she kept giving me signals, so I was escalating until I finally got the courage to grab her hand and tell her to follow me outside. But then when I tried to approach for a kiss, she told me she was 17 and she thought I was a little too old for her. Felt so embarrased because of that, I literally wanted to run away at that point but instead I just ditched her and went back to my friends. She followed me on Instagram and I followed back, we started talking again and then she asked if I would go to a movie with her as she was going anyways. I wasn't available that night, so I told her: "maybe an other time?" She didn't respond and I haven't heard from her since. Those are the closest encounters I've had, which seems kind of pathetic when I look back at it like this. I wish I could stop feeling so anxious/embarassed and just get into the habit of approaching women everytime I go out. When this whole COVID trouble is over, I hope I'm able to do that.
Laplace 2y ago
I didn't read the whole thing but dude I started geting on a dating app started talking to her and stopped talking coz I needed to goto bed. She called me a dick and then we never talked lol. We both gotta put in work.
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Toxicking101 2y ago
It’s that simple
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Yes, girls will probably expect you to make a move if they come and talk to you. Also, next time a girl asks you out, instead of giving her something that seems like you aren't interested suggest a different day and activity. Girls hate asking dudes out and get crushed if they get rejected because they are not used to it and do it rarely.
If you do want to learn how to approach, you will be playing on easy mode so get a little confidence man, you are obviously attractive based on what I've read.