I feel like scum. I (23M) have the "perfect" girl (23F). I've been with her for nearly 4 months officially now, but we've known each other for almost 6. I'm in a relationship with her and she is the most submissive woman ever, we fuck any time I want and anywhere I want, as many times as I want (she was a virgin before me). She's obsessed with my dick and won't even entertain the thought of another man. She wants to see me every single day if she could but I have to put my work before her. She's invested in me, supports nearly my every decision, buys me stuff, cooks for me, is attractive, has great style, very caring and loving, makes her own money, and never do I ever feel stress around her. I cannot think of a quality I'd want that she doesn't have. Our chemistry is perfect. She is my peace.
And yet.
And yet.
I still want to fuck other girls. I've had a huge glow up over the last 1.5 years (style, tone of voice, demeanor, hitting the gym, mindset, facial hair, change of hair style, etc.) and I have a slew of female attention.. Slim thick women with huge asses and big tits, my favorite type. My girl is thick too, don't get me wrong. But there's a part of me that just wants to go out and be the biggest man whore ever. She has a group of 3 friends and all 3 of them want to fuck me even though 2 are in a relationship. I have to reject absolutely gorgeous women because I'm in a relationship. I could've tripled my bodycount by now if I was single.
The thing is, this is purely lust and nothing more. None of these women compare to what my girl offers, and I know it's damn near impossible to find another woman with the same qualities as my girl. I look at a lot of these hot but annoying girls and compare them to mine, and they're all headaches who need attention 24/7 or else they'll go fuck another guy who does give them that attention. All my friends who have been chads are all tired of the sleeping around and crave what I have with my girl. Truly is a case of "the grass is greener". However, they've actually gotten the chance to be chads. I was just getting into my groove in 2021 and then my gf came along and I pounced on the opportunity. I was bumfuck ugly before I glowed up, and I had nearly 0 female attention. Now I can't keep them off.
Help me.
drdontgiveaf 2y ago
4 months is 4 months. It is a short time to commit IMO. It is hard to back off from that...
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
This is a problem I've seen multiple times before in the TRP subs where a guy commits exclusively to a woman and then improves afterwards to the point where he is dissatisfied in some way shape or form.
Except in your case you did 75 % of your improving before committing to her, and just gave away your power to slay other women while you had the chance
Unless she likes FMF threesomes or will have a one-way open relationship, you're shit out of luck unless you end it. Doesn't sound like cheating is an option for you either (I don't like it as well).
I'm being realistic, not idealistic. You have slim to no options for getting your fill of other women while being with her.
Craving variety is normal but you did this to yourself. You'll have to either own it or end it
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throwawayletsg000 2y ago
Yeah--my friend was talking to a girl in her friend group 2+ years ago and he said she was a virgin back then too, and her friends had been trying to get her laid but she didn't really give men attention. Plus, when we first had sex, it took her 15-20 minutes just to take half my dick because it hurt her so bad (I'm above average but not by that much). Even now, almost 4 months of having sex, I still have to ease it in slowly because it still hurts a bit.
She has never lied to me.
Tooktheredpill 2y ago
The real question is, “did she bleed when you two first had sex?
The overwhelming majority of virgins bleed (broken hymen) the first time they have sex.
jormigaso 2y ago
just by reading the title, it sounds like oneitis. Remember AWALT, and abundance mindset brother.
throwawayletsg000 2y ago
I have plenty of abundance, please read the post bro
whytehorse2021 2y ago
You're still blue pilled. You think that if you sleep with other women, she'll leave you. So now you're a slave to her pussy. It's time to put on your big boy panties and overcome your fear of losing her. Here's how I would go about doing it:
Tell her you think she would make a great wife and mother for your kids when the time is right.
Tell her you want to have an exclusive relationship with non-exclusive sex
-I. You won't bring home any STDs
-II. You won't bring home any bastards
-III. You won't do anything to jeopardize her reputation as a lady in a committed relationship or bring dishonor upon the family
-IV. You won't have a relationship with any other woman
-V. You will have a don't ask/don't tell policy so she can live blissfully happy
-VI. You will make sure her sexual needs are satisfied before going with other women
And this is how it works in the real world. You really have to follow the rules or you will lose her. If my wife knew of all the ladyboys, gay guys, and prostitutes I've been with she'd shit her pants. She just thinks I like to hang out with my guy friends at the bar.
JamesSkepp 2y ago
Doesn't matter.
You're not lusting after sex. You're lusting after variety, meaning you find different girls attractive, in different ways.
You don't want to have sex with another girl b/c your current one is inadequate, you want to have sex with another girl b/c she's different and she's attractive in a different way, she has a different story with you.
This is classic situation of "don't buy the first car you'll see if you haven't tried other ones first". Next time you'll want an LTR, from the very first date you have to communicate, exude the aura of a man that won't be tied down. She has to know you're fucking other girls and she'll have to be fine with that. And a LOT of girls will, as (another classic adage) women would rather share an alpha than be with a beta.
Aside from that, you have severe onitis for your girl, if you want to keep her fix that or you'll bungle your relationship by trying to have a relationship. First thing to do is stop assuming she's perfect and that you're destined to spend the rest of your life together b/c "these first 4 months of the next 60 years were great". It's rather unrealistic. Secondly read the r/TRP sidebar (required to get your head straight and not lose the girl) and head to r/MarriedRedPill to ask how to deal with you wanting to cheat b/c on this forum we primarily deal with "how to get girls" or "how to manage multiple girls" and you're asking the complete opposite: "how do i not fuck multiple girls".
Finally I would rethink if you really want or should be in a monogamous relationship if you want to fuck other girls so much that you're researching the internet how to not to. You already know the answer: don't fuck other girls which shouldn't be hard to figure out and do. Going as far as asking on the internet is indicative of how strongly you desire other girls and if that's true you'll waste your time (and hers) on being frustrated and resentful b/c you can't or shouldn't do something you really want to do and all that simply by the fact that you didn't and couldn't know better before.