be 26/M, from a more traditional country in Europe meet 35/F Russian girl at wedding in my country go out, we hit it off really well, she has to return home know that LTRs don't work, suggest she comes back and we go for a 10 day vacation together in couple months go on vacation, have an amazing time together, now thinking of visiting her, tit for tat parents think this is a bad idea, she is too old, I can do better, they want me to break it off
I can honestly say she is gorgeous, tall, a great cook, great personality, the issue for me is her age and that might limit max amount of kids. And then of course I'm still young, I have made and make good money, I can find a woman with same traits (as rare as this more trad wife is, I don't think they are THAT rare) that also comes from a well-off family for extra financial security, but that's secondary and more my dad's thought process.
I can't say that she has any baggage, she just wasn't raised traditionally to value getting married young, like most modern women. And this is all from a standpoint of a serious relationship. I don't need to be serious with her yet, I mean let's face it we have only been together in person for like half a month, but my parents take this trip I am planning very seriously.
She isn't the type to trap a man with a kid, she is going to get an IUD so I know that she won't be able to anyway,
I told her I want to get married earliest 30, and I want 2 maybe 3 kids. She was okay with these things and agrees with the number of kids. I don't want to lead her on so I'm honest with her, but I just don't know if I should be pursuing this further.
So when I'm 30, she will be 39. Starting to have kids at 39 and I want 1 or 2 more? And also being in a committed relationship for 4 years when I'm 26? My longest relationship was half a year. I don't know.... does this sound even feasible? Or should I just be considering this an impossibility, and a little fun fling and be upfront with her? Obviously if she wants a serious relationship and I can't provide that, she shouldn't be wasting any time with me and should be looking for someone ASAP while she still can.
I don't know... any advice friends?
Bark0z 2y ago
I have dated women with IUDs before, I have felt the strings nothing too bad but its better IMO than relying on a more fallible form of birth control like the pill and getting baby trapped so that's why I like this approach
Thank you all for the reality check in regards to her being able to conceive 2-3 kids in the first place.
I think I will be honest with her and end it, unfortunate because the age is really the only bad thing about her, but this is something irreconcilable.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Well, I'm a cougar chaser so you probably know what I'm gonna say. The last Russian older woman I dated and tried to wife up turned out to be married and have a kid and so the embassy rejected her fiancee visa. Not too long ago I met another one in Bali and she had a husband and kid back in Russia but I just stayed away but man I so wanted to just put my dick in her and leave it there for a week until my wife got back.
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
If you want kids, she is too old. Simple as that.
Yep, makes no sense.
You want to be 35 dating a 26 year old. That's when you think about kids.
Cancelcancelculture 2y ago
You're naive to have talk of kids with a lady of 35 years old? Maybe with fertility treatment and a lot of money you might get one kid, if you start IMMEDIATELY. Be careful on the assumption that she wont baby trap, a huge portion of the next generation of people are result of it.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
You've been together with her in person for 2 weeks, are not serious with her yet, and are discussing kids already? Not just having kids but exact numbers and when?
What the fuck, why are you investing in her like this already. Your parents are right
pfeilmacher 2y ago
Keep fucking. Find a much younger girl.
And stop being so naive.
Guyandtheroadtovictory 2y ago
Yo,
Your gut triggered already some things. I suggest you to read about fertility rates and ages, and also, have you read Rollos book?
Lies. Russians are known for traditions, even more if women are older. It does not mean anything that she was raised somehow untraditionally or traditionally - without family, there is a society who teaches stuff way better, either way, all girls dream about be married (safety, progeny etc.), if not - ask questions. Even if she lived in the country side, weddings and kids are must have (because of the work force).
Questions to consider:
Wrong mindset. You are setting yourself up for disaster already - GET TO KNOW HER FIRST - IF SHE IS COMPLIMENTARY to your life. Half a month is too soon to understand what person is behind the wheels.
Enjoy your ride (aka life)
A Jedi must have the deepest commitment, the most serious mind. This one a long time have I watched. All his life has he looked away… to the future, to the horizon. Never his mind on where he was. Hmm? / Yoda
hannulv 2y ago