So I am probably like a lot of you, I found TRP at a later stage of my life and am happy spinning plates and focusing on my purpose, however when it comes to family get togethers, I am always hit with the 'have you found a gf yet!?' I just tell them no I haven't, but im dating then my uncle says 'no you aren't! You haven't had a girlfriend, my neighbour has had like 50 gfs!' then he was like 'you are 28 years old! When are you going to find someone!? then asks my cousins going 'have you got a girl for skriker!?'
Anyway, how would you deal with this situation? Would a good way to do it is too just fuck with their minds? Agree and amplify? next time they ask should i say something like 'wasn't it your job to find me a girl?' Any pointers would be appreciated.
Bonzai-Shaihulud 2y ago
Every time a marriage happened in the family, I was hit with the usual question "So, when is your turn ?". It stopped quite quickly when I told the persons asking "Let's have a deal : stop asking me that question at marriages, and I won't ask the exact same one at the next funeral where we will see each other".
In the same way, as my younger brother got his first child, my sister & I got asked by our mother at a family dinner "So, when is your turn ?". I deadpan answered "What, together ?? That's disgusting !" This (and the fact that my sister got a son with her husband & my brother got 2 more children) has stopped my mother from asking this question again.
Surely it doesn't work on everybody, but being able to answer with just a little bit of snark could help, it depends if they can take it with humour...
whytehorse2021 2y ago
You have to understand the female-centric nature of their mindset. It's bad to be single and spinning plates at age 28 when you're a woman. As a man, you haven't even hit your peak SMV and won't until you're 40. You could use the situation as an opportunity to discuss the state of modern women. Like "I dunno, they don't make women like they used to. I wouldn't want to embarrass myself and the family by committing to a woman who has been with as many men as a prostitute. "
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