I developped one itis for a girl at my workplace.
I was paralyzed : I couldn’t look her in the eyes anymore, couldn’t talk to her anymore, I was visibly very affected whenever she was around, becoming very nervous and socially anxious, feeling very bad, being pale in the face and incapable of talking to anyone when she was around.
She is now trying to turn me into a beta orbiter by providing me with some subtle gestures of interest (standing a little too close to me, giving hugs, etc…) which are there only to create and maintain a sexual desire for her, even though nothing will ever happen.
I don’t like the idea of being treated and stringed along like a fool .
How can I stop being paralyzed by this crush ? It affects me at the workplace because I look like a weirdo, and it affects my work since I’m too affected and feeling bad when she is around.
How should I interact with her on a daily basis to have her understand I won't be an orbiter to her ?
master-of-losers 2y ago
Have a dream of her fucking some other guy, wake up crying, label her as a slut in your mind, and the attraction shall be gone.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
For one, she's at your workplace. Don't shit where you eat. That's literally the only information in this case to just stop pursuing her or to stop trying to talk to her about anything besides work
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coolsocks00 1 2y ago
Its hard when you have to be near her. Usually, time away is the easiest solution. Going with amused mastery might seem too sudden considering your past cringy behavior.
I suggest just treating her like a good friend in an overt manner. Friend zone her back in a sense. Be almost too nice, and dont spend time with her more than you need to. You want her off your back, and you do that by making her see that she doesnt affect you anymore.
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coolsocks00 1 2y ago
Ehh.. maybe. But in my experience such turnarounds are fleeting. Past beta behaviour is not easily forgotten, hence the saying that it's much better to focus on new women instead of trying to rekindle past relationships that didnt work out.