Hey, So there is this very cute girl who is a waitress at the bar i go very often, we also share common friends, so we see each other pretty often
We matched on tinder few weeks ago, we already had a few drinks but no 1 on 1 dates, (it was with other people from our social circle) and we text a little, but i hate texting
I have no issue with girls who are not in my social circle, i ask them in dates and keep texting for logistics only
I want to ask this girl out, but if she refuse, she might tell everyone about it, and it will be pretty akward because i will encounter this girl a lot
I wanna have a 1 on 1 date with her, but i want to find a smooth way to invite her so it doesn't sound like it's an actual date, and then when i see her i will game her normally and escalate
Any ideas guys ? thanks
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Why not just go to the place she works near the end of her shift and strike up a convo. Suggest hanging out somewhere but do it casually like you just thought of it and see what happens. Maybe take a softer approach with her on the date though if you are worried about social repercussions.
RPEsq 2y ago
You’re being outcome dependent in worrying what if she says no.
Just ask her out and if she says no, move on to the next one. Abundance is not caring either way because there will always be more
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
I had sex with a girl in my social circle once, would not recommend. It did not end well and people you don't even tell figure it out anyway
If you're not heavily involved in that group then sure why not, but if you both are know that you'll keep seeing her around if things end and people will know no matter how low key you try to be