We all know it. “She’s not yours, it’s just your turn.”
This is true, yes. The problem is that this phrase postures this situation as a loss to you; the man. The way we posture or frame phrases has the ability to affect our mental frame.
Something I’ve changed to this phrase, for my own posturing involves myself as the prize. If I really believe I’m the prize, is it simply “my turn” with her? NO. It’s her turn with ME.
“She’s not yours, it’s just her turn.”
Try it men.
natural-order 2y ago
Tbh that phrase should only be used for players or short term fwbs.
In an LTR she is yours and you need to set boundaries and establish control. It's not all about outcome independence.
Even RP aware men get cheated on or ghosted in an ltr because they get stuck in the mindset that she isnt yours and let her do what she wants
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Jinbrah 2y ago
Sure, same difference.