I'm going out on a date with a 4/10 from OLD, my same league. I don't dislike her, I find her interesting (so far) but she keeps insisting on going out. In her profile, she says she wants to at least find something meaningful and is tired/not a fan of hookups. I've shown signs that I'm not the exclusive type, I even reply after long periods of time talking to other women. If I want to set the tone in the very beginning, do I say it after sex? Or show the subtlety of my wanted lifestyle?
melosgallium
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moorekom 2y ago
Indirect communication is almost always better than direct communication. Let it be known through your actions that she is not going to be a relationship prospect and you are not looking to be exclusive. Only resort to direct communication if she asks you directly.
melosgallium 2y ago
What are some lines or examples of indirect communication? Do you think it's callous to perhaps accidentally show that you also talk to other women (phone contacts) or do I add humor when going out and compliment other women or talk about how she dresses etc?
moorekom 2y ago
When I was cold approaching, if a girl was talking too much and was starting to bore me, I would turn around to look at something else for a second or two. The frequency and duration will increase as necessary. That is an example of indirect communication and a good way to implement dread without verbal communication.
If you did the same exact thing along with a fake yawn (and a grin later on) when she is talking about something passionately, that would be a neg.
Accidentally or intentionally revealing phone contacts of other plates is a good way of indirect communication as well.
Generally, guys over-think what they should say to look cool. In my experience, what you say rarely matters. Body language, attitude and frame are more important.
What you do depends on what you want to achieve. If you don't really care about her sticking around, you can be as callous as you want. If you want her to stick around, make her think you are the shit. If you want her to stick around, yet you do not ever want to commit to her, make it clear (directly or indirectly) that this is just casual.
redpillschool Admin 2y ago
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moorekom 2y ago
Yes, this works and I noticed that the notification showed up as a notification from TheRedPill forum instead of public square.
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Think we're in business. The problem is that the default forums were made before tribes, so the tribe space and forum space have a mapping that didn't come through with the rest of them.
moorekom 2y ago
Makes sense.
While we're at it, let me also request a feature that sorts the comments in forums by top votes.
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redpillschool Admin 2y ago
The comment sort should already by by hotscore, but if you check top right corner above post, there's a drop down with other options.
moorekom 2y ago
Nice. I must have missed that. I would suggest to move it to just below the reply comment section, if possible. Sure, it is reddit-esque, but it does provide more visibility.
melosgallium 2y ago
Thank you, this clears it up. Do you have an example for let's say a fresh "connect"? And this is after the first (or second etc) date, and after the sex. I read somewhere that it's usually better to break the "news" in the morning after sleeping together or something of the like. If this is the case, then what's the right thing to sort of say? Is it "sorry babe, I also sleep with women, GOTCHA!" (obviously not) but I often find it difficult to express in words and I know you mentioned words do not mean anything.
But what about when things come to texting, (and you can't phone call currently) or you really want to show her that you view "relationships" differently, you can outright say it but I certainly can't show it with just body language. It might also be good to hide it under humor but then, how can she even tell if you're being serious? I won't get into morality and you're right about her not asking directly but I also want to save myself from the later headache or if a lady is a little crazy, some damages emotionally/materialistically. Let's say the 1st date went well, talks in between, a lay happens in the third, she rarely asked about exclusivity, though she might assume. What are the right words?