Let's say you walked into a group of people in the dorm whom you don't know except a couple of people. After talking to them you notice that a cute girl is interested in you and trying to talk up to you, so much so that she is trying to talk instead of her boyfriend. So, long story short if a girl, who has a boyfriend, is interested in you should you try to approach her, and not to give a fuck about the boyfriend, or give up on her and try to make friends with her and her boyfriend(who seems to be a nice person)?
The place is very small and everybody knows each other.
Anonymous-O 3y ago
Since the place is so small this could result in some drama. Is one girl really worth that? Do you have other girls you are talking to? Why are you zeroing in on this particular one? Give some more details about yourself. This is a risk versus reward type of thing. Do the rewards merit the risks? It doesn't seem so here. Making an enemy with a guy you have to see all the time? For some sex? I wouldn't do it. Go after another girl.
no_name_user_me 3y ago
Is one girl really worth that? Do you have other girls you are talking to?
I actually thought the same.No, not really. I am very new to this country so I haven't met many people yet.
Why are you zeroing in on this particular one? Give some more details about yourself.
Unfortunately, I have the v-card which pushes me to take every chance I get. I'm trying to lose the v-card pretty badly if I didn't have it I would probably never consider this or any similar chance. Also, I don't speak their language and people here don't seem that social as well.
Do the rewards merit the risks? I haven't met her for 4-5 days now, so I don't even know how she will react if I meet her the next time. To answer directly the v-card is the thing makes the reward pretty high to me. But the answer is not even binary, I don't know how the guy will react.
Anonymous-O 3y ago
Well, before you do it, you should approach other women. There is a reason scarcity is spoken of here so much. When you have no other options, you act out of desperation, doing things you would not do if there were other girls that liked you. Talk to multiple girls. Don't avoid rejection. It will happen. You will survive it and get better.
Every day after class or whatnot, make it a priority to talk to at least five girls on your way home. Grit your teeth and do it for a week. Then see if you still feel the same way about that one girl.
no_name_user_me 3y ago
5 is too many but yea I need to get into abundance and I can. That is a good advice.