We have advice here that we should be outcome independent and you should be, but it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t have any expectations from the people around us. That is handing out free passes to use us. This not expecting anything from women gives a whole bunch leeway to women to act however they wanna act. Instead we should have a whole bunch of expectations and when those expectations are not met it should be let known. And really step up until that expectation is met again. This way you are keeping a record of shit behavior so we and they remember that they were a failure and that’s why it didn’t work.