Had a payoff for a social gathering tonight, but upon reflection not too sure how I feel about it overall. Basically I went out with a social group I'm a part of to a bar after. Big group, 2 girls of this group were friends. Girl A was hot, but I had much better conversation with Girl B. Basically the group went to 2 bars, and while I was walking with the group, Girl B and I had some conversation, and it was going pretty well, so I ended up talking to her more. Girl B and Girl A sat near me, but since Girl B ended up right next to me, I ended up talking to her more and pursing her more due to proximity. However, looking back at the night, I think Girl A might of been sending me signals (not sure, never had it happen before). Girl A made sure to know I was invited when the group was changing location, and asked me a couple questions about myself. I thought she was just being nice, but now I think she may of been interested. I ended up getting girl B's number, so I'll go out and get coffee with her this week, but kinda feeling like I went the safe route(girl B), instead of shooting my shot with the hotter girl(girl A). Girl B had good body language though,she turned her whole torso to face me while we were talking at the bar, and was still cute if not a bit awkward. Overall the night went really well, and my ability to hold conversations has improved a lot.
My questions are:
1) How to tell being interested in you vs. being nice.
2) Is it always best to try shoot your shot with the hottest girl with the group, or the one who sends you clear signals? I just went with the flow with girl B and said fuck it and asked for her number before I left, but looking back I never made a conscious choice on pursing Girl B over Girl A.
3) How to talk to a girl who shows interest in you off the bat? I had no idea how to respond to Girl A or escalate, so I think I went the safer route, of basic non-game conversation with Girl B, keeping it to safe topics. I've tried teasing a bit recently with other girls but I've had zero success, where I've been getting better at conversation in general, so I was able to keep it flowing pretty without any awkward silences. I think I may of been thrown off by Girl A if she was sending signals, so I wasn't sure what to do.
Attempt at Answering own questions:
1) I don't think you can, you should just shoot your shot with whichever girl you want, not caring if she's just being nice or not. I think my mistake here was I just went with the flow without intention.
2) Clear signals is probably the best route, since it improves odds for success.
3) I wasn't sure how to engage with Girl A so I didn't respond, I think as I get better at game and directing the conversation I should pursue the hotter girl using game from where I practiced. I was also hesitant to purse girl A since I see her twice a week at this group, and it would have sucked if I messed it up, but Girl B was just there with Girl A so it felt like the safer option.

mattyanon Admin 9mo ago
Escalate to find out.
Did you touch her?
That's your choice.
Often girls try to make this decision for you.
Same as any other girl.
This is what you need to know and feel and do.
How to escalate.
Sounds dull
Teasing might not be your thing.
Good..... but conversation won't get you far. It's good for groups, but it doesn't make girls want you.
Ok..... find my blog on here.... there is an article or two on physical escalation. You need to learn this shit.
GetMoreBooks 9mo ago
No I didn't, I ended up touching Girl B on the shoulder before leaving, but didn't try at all with Girl A. Yeah, next time I'll decide who I'm pursing. I don't think teasing is my thing yet, but I'll put it on the back burner while I get better at escalating. I'll check out the blog for physical escalation! Does it mention how to show interest verbally, because I feel like a lot of what I say is not really man to woman, just normal conversation, so I feel like this is where I'm lacking most.
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GetMoreBooks 9mo ago
Lol thanks.