To answer my question, I would assume that I am her backup at the moment which means she basically just hits me up when her other plans fall through I guess. So i'd assume I should just ignore her? or just say ok. not sure if theres any point in trying to reschedule.

In case it needs to be reminded, women are the selectors…it’s nothing personal even if it feels like it is… and even the woman doesn’t necessarily know how she feels or how she will feel… she’s clearly not going out of her way to connect with you at this time.

It’s fairly widely understood advice that if you have enough going on in your life you won’t be bothered even slightly… if she cancels that’s just one more opportunity for a 2 hour weights sesh, a healthy meal, some time reading or working on your business… things that actually improve your life.

It’s not necessarily rejection, you don’t know how she feels, it may be possible that she has other guys in mind, it may be possible that you are a “backup”… a boy will feel upset by this, a man knows the universe is outside of his control but how he feels and how he reacts isn’t.

Rejection in a way can be converted nearly directly into positive fuel for growth… it’s not easy for most men…

Own the difficulty, relax, it’s only pussy and pussy has brought the most successful men to have ever lived to their knees…

I’m 38yo so I’ve seen some things and done some things… here’s the advice I’d give my son… accept how she wants as if you’re life is so grounded and fulfilled that it doesn’t matter… because ideally it doesn’t matter… if you can’t actually feel that way, fake it for now…

Your response can be friendly, and honest with kind understanding…that’s your best play here…

Women seldomly select men purely for just a hookup… they select based on potential… and how he makes her feel… why not say something that sets the stage for maintaining a connection that keeps the sexual tension going…

“Haha no worries”

It shows you can see that she’s pulling out the excuses to keep things peaceful, you can see that it’s not a particularly polite move… but you’re also grounded and not blaming her, because she can’t control how she feels … she wants the best man she can get that leads to a good life … just as men… young men especially want the best pussy they can get …

Do you really want to spend your time with a girl who takes 3 days to respond? That sounds like effort.

The women is the one who should be asking her friends shit like this. Invest in people who are actually interested in you.

low priority/no priority plate

My question is, who is YOUR backup?

Her: "I need to cancel, a friend invited me out for dinner."
Me: Sure, no problem. I'll just hit Candy up to hang out with me instead. Enjoy your dinner!