Exhibit A: I've dealt with plates that go out without me, complete and utter red flag, I know, but if it's not your wife so-to-say, why would you care? Especially when you're 1 to 2 SMV points above them, and they have high obedience to you. Meaning; if you're traveling, they ask when you'll be back, or the weekend rolls around and they text you what your plans are, etc.

In my experience my previous plate was just like this, and eventually I couldn't deal with it because she wanted commitment, knowing damn well I won't commit to a Thursday, Friday, Saturday regular bar-goer (even though I previously worked at that bar- women and men are not the same - if she wanted to be with the "girls" she could have just socialized at her apartment with them and called it a night, or went out to the movies, any other past time for fucks sake).

Recently, what led me to this post is I have a new plate now, she's so far been very obedient, agreeable, and submissive, no known skeletons so far. Nevertheless, last time I came over to her's she briefly skid past the fact that she went out the weekend prior. I think that Saturday (day after we banged) and I hadn't received an invite then to join. Ok, I put it on the backburner, clearly some new poison brewing I thought. I smash and dash, go out the same Friday night, then explore my options the following Saturday night.

A week later, same old wyd text on Friday, same routine follows. Then, Saturday night, I see her out at the bar towards the end of the night - but, she did mention to me that she'd go out and asked if I wanted to join, I said I was with my brother for dinner (which I was earlier) and declined said I was going to busy, because I set the frame not them, unless they earn it I won't drop my plans and close my options unless it's a total dime which we all know doesn't exist.

When I saw her out, she was with her gay friend (I know he's gay A. because of the attire, and B. she mentioned him) but regardless, you're out where there's other men, that's like your employee using the company business card on his vacation miles, that man's lost the promotion when he comes back, in my mind the girl loses her "commitment" upgrade opportunity.

But, what's different with this plate than my last one is she apologized the day after said: "Hey, sorry if I seemed off the last night seeing you totally caught me by suprise. I didn't mean to be wierd, just froze a bit. Hope we're good!"

Okay... at least you recognize the bad behavior, then I weigh the pros and cons of said chick, so far. And even that's strange in this case, she said randomly "btw I've been celibate for 2 years" right after the first time we banged. Then she comes from a single mother household, told me explicitly she has daddy issues, yet always talks positively about her dad and last Fri before I came helped him with some things. Then, says she's been celibate yet has some distinguished bedroom skills (to say the least). This chick is literally a walking oxymoron/ contradiction. Goes out, yet apologizes...

I'm sort of stumped where to move on from here. Continue recreational routine? Should I be more concerned/ put my foot down in some way, or do I have no right? I know some of y'all will say I don't have the right to make it closed on her end and not mine. Though I haven't claimed her, I don't enjoy assuming she's out there talking to other men. What would you do in this scenario?

My attempt to answer: spin the plate until it inevitably falls, every woman has skeletons in their closets, some just have graveyards. When I notice red flags, they instantly reveal disqualifiers, bad habits are very likely to be repeated. Continue having fun, if you sense disrespect give her 2 strikes, cut ties if no resolution or reconciliation follows.