So I (22M) have been with my girlfriend (21F) for just over a year. We’ve lived together for the last 8 months in college and we've had recurring fights throughout the relationship, mostly stemming from me calling out a lack of effort on her part—whether it’s not even offering to do simple tasks for me such as cooking like she did before, having no hobbies, or not really showing up for quality time as she'd prefer to doomscroll 24/7—and her flipping it into me thinking she’s not good enough. We went home from college two weeks ago, easily the roughest two weeks of my life due to psychopath brother/many deadlines/working full time .
She started getting disrespectful by drinking from 3pm and ending up at the club until 2am when it was supposed to only be a "work lunch" and I told her if she's going to behave like the town bike I'm going to treat her like one and leave her if she does it again, among other things and I slipped up by breaking frame and asking about her body count and who this guy is that’s liking her stories and posts every day (she’s liked his posts in the past). She got enraged and said it’s none of my business—even though she made me cut off my old female friends early in the relationship.
Over the next few days I tried to deescalate, but she kept pressing the issue, acting like I was in the wrong. Eventually I snapped and called her out—told her she’s a shitty person (based on past behavior and current secrecy), and after a round of insults from her, I asked if she's done insulting me and she ghosted me and left me on read for a week.
After a week of no contact, I sent her a confident post-workout pic (I'm in great shape) and asked if she wanted to get a nice hotel and blow off some steam. She opened it instantly, saved it, didn’t reply. I followed up with a cocky message a couple hours later. Next day she replied: “I don’t think that’s what we need right now, but if you send me the money you owe me that would be great.” I told her I would when work pays me. Left on delivered again.
Next day (today) I asked if she was ready to talk—left on delivered for 8+ hours now. She’s also deleted most of her nudes from our chat and removed me from close friends on insta.
Here’s the deal: I found out she hid something major from me when we first got together—enough to walk away over—but since we’ve lived together all year, I’ve been keeping her around for fun. I plan to break up for good when I move out in July. I just can’t afford a breakup right now with exams coming up in 3 weeks—it’d mess with my mental.
I wasn't planning on messaging her again but now I'm unsure if I should just break up with her and unadd her or go for a different approach and post a shirtless photo on my public story/ post a story of me out with friends etc.
I've never prioritised her as I've got a solid career path, gym/boxing routine, good social circle, and I know my value—I’m not worried if she walks. Just would prefer to keep her around for another while/ FWB her.
**she just responded "what is it you want to say?"
Solezhtyn 2w ago
Yeah its done. Not worth your time.
First-light 3w ago
Just put her out of your mind. She is not good enough. If she texts, she texts and you can reply. If she does not so what, its not like you wanted her. If you stop thinking about her by deciding its over anyway, that will be ideal.
If you get to bang her again to ease your mind before the exams, well fine. When they end, next her anyway regardless.
Send her the money you owe her as soon as you have it, because its hers and you don't need that getting in the way.
mattyanon Admin 3w ago
the arguments are because she doesn't respect you.
in her head she has already broken up with you because of your unreasonable demands..... ie doing her fair share.
she's a spoiled/entitled narcissist.
next
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 3w ago
Next.
Next.
Next.
Next her yesterday.
So she's a liar to boot. Next.
Why haven't you already?
No one can "make" you do anything. You chose to cut them off.
Then why haven't you ended this yet?
Does she add any value to your life outside of sex? At all?
Why would you not want this to be over? She sounds like too much headache.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3w ago
Next.
otbt2 3w ago
Tbh the only thing keeping me around is her looks she’s def a 9/10 and I like that she studies law. Also I enjoy fucking her
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3w ago
So downgrade her to a plate. The fuck
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 3w ago
A compliant, fun 6 is better than a bitchy 9.
This may be the first time I've ever seen a guy legit say something similar to "look at the education/career on her!" without a hint of sarcasm.
And as others have pointed out, she's going to think she's entitled to a man of equal or higher education and status. One of the biggest signs of impending divorce is when a wife gets a sudden promotion.
There'll be others. She's not the only person on earth who has a vagina.
Quoting myself here:
Going by your reply, the answer is no.
AbusiveFather1 3w ago
You like the fact that she thinks she can do as good or better than you financially so she doesn’t have to be a good girlfriend to you? Potentially being capable to sue you at her whim?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3w ago
Underrated gold
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3w ago
This you?
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Musicgoon78 2 3w ago
Check out mentally. You're single with a roommate. Distance yourself from her don interact, and dump her in July.
cundardunfinished 3w ago
It's over man, it's been over. You can't convince a girl to be into you and you've been trying to do that for a year.
Identify the cleanest break as far as the lease goes and move on. When I was young and stupid luckily she was willing to keep the apartment so I could just take my clothes and leave.
The exams in July are a bullshit excuse. Welcome to adulthood where you have to handle multiple things at the same time. This broad isn't worth breaking your study habits over.
Overkill_Engine 3 3w ago
What I and pretty much anyone sane has gotten from this is you have identified an entire checklist of problems or plain outright "too much work" issues worthy of relationship termination, yet you come here and are making excuses for not having done so.
The real reason of course being you clearly have scarcity issues, and you are refusing to let go of the silly fantasy that you can somehow fix her if we tell you the magical passwords for for Fix Pussy Plz.
Protip: you can't fix her and even if you could, you still aren't ever going to get paid enough to make it worth doing so.
Next!
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3w ago
Her hypergamy is going to fix this relationship (by ending it) if she doesn't have a new branch she's been swinging on or toward already
throwaway415 3w ago
category 5 bruh moment
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3w ago
You know i hadn't read past some quoted comments until this but holy shit i just read the whole post
Bruh
ObliviousDuck 3w ago
OK guys. Who's gonna tell him?
No-Stress-Cat 3w ago
Yeah, kick her ass out.