22 year old here living in SEA, been in monk mode since almost two years now. Did engineering from a top college, now joining a service that will propel me into the top 0.1% of my country in terms of both money and status in society.
The issue is, it wasn't a complete monk mode, it was more of involuntary celibacy and only studying. I am still an underweight guy who started the gym this week (4 days weightlifting, 3 days running), started learning quick chicken recipes etc.
In these two years, I read many posts of TRP but have forgotten them over time. Morevoer, most of them were related to monk mode instead of dating, shit tests, teasing, kino etc. I had two serious relationships but never escalated beyond oral so I am also looking for reading material on bedroom skills.
I have observed on my interaction with women (completely online or on dating apps), that I am able to talk to them on text and they get impressed but I am not able to do anything offline, I kinda give up before I meet them offline probably because of anxiety or because I don't really know what to do in a dating setting. Moreover, I am joining the military so I don't want long term relationship but the moment girls find out about my career, they start pushing for a serious relationship and commitment or maybe they see me as a nice guy to settle down with when I just want to get laid like a warlord before I leave for my training.
So, I am looking for advice on what to read about women psychology, teasing, shit tests, escalating, frame, being better in the bedroom etc. while I am building muscle simultaneously to max out my SMV. I have a printed PDF of the sidebar, should I read it cover to cover? Or should I read some posts or order books like NMMNG, She Comes First, The Rational Male?
derdeutscher 1w ago
Jesus, they are just women. Have you considered to talk to any of them?
You seems somewhat uptight, maybe drink a beer or two to relax and than talk to some of them. But I will tell you my opinion upfront, you dont sound like you will get laid.
You think of a women as of some enigmas to be solved, and you already see thousand obstacles, otherwise you would not be looking for solution. Finally, you think life is 2+2=4 and if you put certain calculated effort panties will just come off. Its fastest way to get your ego bruised.
Seriously, forget all of this and just relax.
ballubhai 1w ago
Just talk to women? They are not aliens dude that you need to do experiements on them before any interaction.
Musicgoon78 2 1w ago
It sounds like you aren't ready or truly want success. No amount of reading will make you better. Actually doing the work will. Your going to have to find you balls to talk with and date women.
MrSupreme 1w ago
The sidebar stuff is great.but seeing your decision to join the army I think the best thing you can do is get some experience out there in the field as well. They'll see you as high value,sure, but if they're not fucking you then there's no point in feeling anything about it. Bitch wants a relationship with a high earning,young top percentage man then she better start showing off her own value.
But that aside, you're only looking for fun times, so do just that,beware getting baby trapped.
TheNewNormal 1w ago
Yeah, baby trap is why I never escalated beyond oral with my LTRs. Society makes a big fuss about virginity in SEA.
I am looking for fun times, so I wanna know what I should read to learn all the things like escalation, teasing, shit tests, holding frame etc?
MrSupreme 1w ago
sidebar material is great knowledge, but it is mostly calibrated for the american market.Things can vary in other places like fucking India, going out there and experiencing the market is your best choice.
See what is going on,it is a market after all.You already got some value,but it is mostly provider stuff.What you seek is in the sidebar,but it is all theory,it needs to be applied in the field.