She told you all her shit in order to warn you. It's only two weeks. Neither you, nor her want it to go ahead into a crash.

It's not that you are together for years. The reasonable thing to do is go for a civilized separation. It might not work, but then again, it might, and it will save you tons of trouble.

Just tell her you're looking for someone with a less complicated history. I doubt she's married to a gay guy. Every gay guy I've ever known hates women, except for those flaming faggots that you can identify right away. Either way, she's married and fucking other guys. That's a complicated history. She's been institutionalized 3X. That's a complicated history.

Unicorn. Marry her

Boy you got yourself into some deep shit. sticking your dick in cray cray,very cray cray in this case. I'm guessing the sex has been amazing,that's what most guys say after they've been with the nut chick.

Anyways, you're gonna want to make some changes.The 20 minute walk to work sounds like nice and healthy cardio, remember she's the one attached to you, so ghosting her may not be enough. If she goes bananas looking for you and chasing you, then you're gonna have to think of a way to look as unattractive to her as possible, something that makes HER leave. Not an easy task ahead of you

Wow! This is one of the first substantial and real problems I've read here.

As a survivor of a BPD chick I will say that this isn't one thing to take lightly. You very well could have your life ruined or she could pull some Jody Arias shit!

First thing is let's address the addiction. You are used to this crazy level of attention and I would say drama. Let me just be honest, psychologically the damage is already done. I don't know if you've caught her bad side yet, but BPD volatility is on a whole new level that most normal people can't even comprehend. My ex killed my dogs and tried to pour hot bacon grease on me while I was sleeping!

So here's the deal: the only way to handle this with minimal damage is by using covert tactics. You're going to lose some possessions and have to reboot your life.

If you stick it out she's going to go from lovey dovey shit to breaking you down. One day you'll realize you're miserable, isolated, and have no self esteem. Staying means you'll either be a zombie or "opt out of life "as a gentle way of putting it.

Play it cool. Don't tip her off to anything wrong. Get that sweet ass, but stick to your goal. You're going to make moves when she's not around.

First. Get a storage unit or a big insurance policy on all your belongings. There's a good chance of her breaking and entering if she knows where to live or how to track you or even burning your place down. I went a different route and sold everything I owned. I was desperate to get out.

You're going to need a place to stay. It has to be at least the next town over or further. Maybe stay with some relatives for a little while? I didn't have anyone, so I was homeless for a little while.

You're going to need to find a new job so start looking if she knows how to get you there.

Now here's a big suggestion that I wish I would have done. Go to your local police station or courthouse. You need to get a no contact order. Tell them that this girl has been acting crazy, has been harassing you and is starting to get violent. She has thrown things at you etc...

This will cost anywhere between 20 to 30 bucks but it starts a record of your intent to bail and also gives you an out of shit goes sideways. You serve her with this and she has to leave you alone. If your car gets keyed or you get robbed or even she tried to murder you, she is now prime suspect. And you have legal proof that you wanted out of this and feared her retribution.

When you decide to leave and ghost is the same day you have an officer meet her with the no contact order at a typical meeting spot. You can ghost and also send a strong message. This is one girl you don't want to take lightly.

Now do not go back to this woman, don't get her pregnant and do not let her in on your covert plans. You are going to need to detox from this level of emotional arousal. For a while. Normal is going to seem boring or mundane. This is to be expected and you're going to need to fight it. I say continue to find plates, just don't ignore the warning signs.

Unfortunately, these days the vast majority of women are seriously fucking crazy!

Let me ask, are you willing and ready to make some sacrifices or do you want this to continue? Eventually you will break.

Thank goodness you don't tell her your address.

The best way of all to get rid of a crazy girl is to make her think breaking up was her idea or that she just had to for her sanity. Then the same crazy hamster that revved up the hamster wheel till its bearings burnt when you were having great sex, is the same crazy hamster that will spin the wheel away that takes her far away from you.

There is a danger in all contact with her, its true so there is a valid argument for a sharp exit ASAP and not trying to spin her away from you on her own inertia. But I would say only do this if you are really well enough covered that she won't follow you home from work. But if you are deep enough in that she might lock on, then even trying to use a push back from her as the propulsion to the break can be a great help. For this reason picking your moment can be worth it. Using female tactics can be good. Wait for an argument/ cause one, making it a bad one and then reply to her next text "better leave it a week" then "No I really meant a week, I don't want to reply again" before ghosting can be a good tactic. If you are lucky, it might buy you a few days for her to turn her mind elsewhere in. You only need her to focus her cross hairs on something else to be obsessed with and you are in the clear.

Download a call recorder ap on your phone, save all voice messages, catalogue all threats and take them to the police early if they start.

Beware the relapse. They are addictive. When you are out, don't be tempted to think "Was I really a bit over reactive there, one more good bang couldn't do any harm..."