I was very truthful in my last relationship, and got lied to by a girl who claimed to be a virgin. Ovs girls will still lie but i am thinking how next time I can get a girl to open up more truthfully.
Should I act fake and be extremely sex positive, say stuff like I only date women with high body counts or experienced women, that’s my type. I just hate the part of being fake and also afraid this may drive out women who may actually have low body counts.
Thanks for your comments!
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
Don't bring it up. If you do, it will seem forced and women can smell that shit a mile away. The secret is not to judge when they start to trickle truth.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
No, I just show an absence of judgement. I don't act pro sex positive, i don't want it to boomerang and inadvertently encourage slutty tendencies
Lone_Ranger 3 1y ago
I don't think what a man encourages has anything to do with it.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
It's unlikely to move the needle much but the last thing you need is a girl who's like "finally a guy that won't judge me for being a free woman" and then she stops caring if being a slut has consequences or not
DragonNuts 1y ago
Try it for the hell of it. There's nothing to lose unless you're hoping for more.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
No, don't fake anything. Have your standards and live by them. It's for her to fuck up and lie. Not you.
helpfulguy22 1y ago
The issue is I did in my last relationship, but because I was truthful about my standard of wanting a girl with a low body count from the jump, she lied about it, I found out after 7 months. I’m scared of that happening again.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Well yeah it happens to all of us. Treat the women accordingly. Now she's a slut AND a liar. Not exactly someone you want to have your back when the SHTF. I'll fuck a prostitute with an n-count in the hundreds because she's hot and cheap but I'm not making her my wife and mother of my children...
No-Stress-Cat 1y ago
My idea of sex positive: my dick, her ass. I'm willing to buy her tacos after.
First-light 2 1y ago
I think its more about just being very relaxed about talking about exes and past experiences. Once they are invested in the relationship and know you are not keen on sluts, they will lie. Right at the start, before you even ask them out, they will be a lot more honest. The longer it goes, the keener on you they become and the more you reveal who you are, the more they try to pretend they fit your standards. With time you inevitably reveal who you are so finding out early is better.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 1y ago
I'd always play it cool, not judging them,etc.
I wanted to get her past history as honest as I could. Of course, you'll never know it all, ever.
Women usually do like to talk about this. They want to see if you judge them, think about it.
From her view:
Gee , I like this guy, but wonder if he's a judgemental jerk.
Like, I've been with 30 guys, done 10 or so, hee, ok, 30 ONS and a few 3somes,etc. I wonder if he's gonna be ok with that if it slips out after we get involved deeply.
so, she wants to let a "small" amount of her history out and then "judge" your reaction to it. Yes, she's actually trying to judge you, don't fall for this MSM shit of no judgement,etc. Girls are constantly judging guys. The main difference. Girls judge guys on the present, guys judge more on the past
So, I liked it, some girls are actually excited to talk about it after they see you aren't judging them and spill out quite a bit. They didn't realize they just limited themselves to the plate/FB zone. I'd never tell them that of course. They'd wonder why I wouldn't commit to them,etc.
Lone_Ranger 3 1y ago
You don't need to. You don't need to do anything to get a woman to reveal her past sluttiness.
Because women just can't wait to tell you all about it, because they are so proud of it. This has been both my experience and my observation over the last decades (I'm early 50s). And they never stop. I was at a dinner party over the weekend, and some woman was telling us all about 'what a party girl' she used to be. This was interpreted as a challenge by the other females, and they stepped up, so as not to be outdone.
One particular woman recounted how she had been a volunteer at a large church festival (pushing old people around in wheelchairs) - which was the only kind of festival her religious parents would allow her to go to as a young teen - but she then told us all how they would sneak out to the nightclubs until 4 in the morning. Her poor husband had to sit there and listen to stories about all the sex his wife was getting while he was some poor teenage guy not getting any.
Women will let you know all about their slutting because they are proud of how slutty they were/are. This gets worse as they get older, because nobody wants to fuck them anymore, so they use stores about how they were 'party girls' in order to prove to everyone that, well, at least they were sluts in the past (before they got ejected from the CC).
Women always tell on themselves. All you have to do is listen. If you go to other forums where females congregate, they have this sort of convo;
"I don't want to sleep around too much, because I don't want a bad reputation"
You won't have a reputation, because you are a nobody. What will happen is that you will not be able to resist the urge to boast about your sexual past
"What's the big deal with a high n count? It's my own personal secret, so I'm not going to be telling future husbands"
*Oh but you will. You will not be able to hold back on the urge to humiliate your husband. You will lie when / if he asks the n count question, and then trickly truth him over years to instil doubt. This is called the 'insincere lie'. You lie badly on purpose, to create doubt, and the doubt creates jealousy, which creates power in the relationship for the wife. You will not be able to resist the power of humiliating your husband, and it will come out"