I wouldn't do anything of the sort. I'd just continue as you have but not rub other women in her face. Of course she'll react negatively to that.

You knew she liked you, and you just wanted an easy lay. This is a natural consequence of that.

Yes you can set your boundaries and say no relationship but women are feels-oriented. Then on top of that you did a bunch of relationship things, met the fam, etc.

Then you all talked about your emotions etc.

She sees you talking to women who are obviously numerous SMV points above her and you were her first (allegedly).

This is all rather predictable. She has no abundance (which is rare for a woman, because she's so low SMV) and so she's having a freakout.

Women are driven by feels, it doesn't matter what words come out of her mouth. If she's angry, her emotions are her reality. If she's happy, her emotions are her reality.

It doesn't matter what you told her or what you or she said, you are driving a type of relationship that is creating certain feels and now you're stuck with it.

It sounds like it is doomed to fail, it's always just your turn anyway with casual sex because women will ALWAYS meet a guy that they want to pursue for a relationship. It's just a matter of when.

As many have mentioned before you should have let this fizzle weeks ago. Good on you for getting evidence of consent but you're still playing around with fire and predicable outcomes.

This is precisely why you should not go for women you're not actually that attracted to unless it's a situation that you for sure know will be a ONS such as vacation etc.

Stick to women that actually turn you on. It will be easier to manage them because you won't have this weird dynamic where you low key don't think she's worthy and then game near her etc.

Vermillion has covered the key points pretty well imo.

What I will say is do not get sucked into this. Because if you're not careful you will be.

From your post it seems like you're starting to get emotionally invested. I'm not going to say you're getting oneitis because that clearly isn't the case.

You're clearly a decent guy, and I can sense an element of feeling sorry/guilty for her in this post - which is why you are drawn to speak to her again.

Mark my words son, that will be your downfall. You will get sucked in and played by your own ego.

I've been putting much thought into this, and I think I'm going to reach out in the morning to talk with her in person. I'd also do this if it were a guy.

She is not a guy. Correct? i.e. there is nothing logical to discuss. Only feelz. She's pissed off. Nothing you say or do will change that anyways.

Do not reach out.

I want to understand what the fuck is going on. I want to identify if she's playing a twisted power game to get me to invest, or if she genuinely ejected herself.

You already know what's going on. She's pissed because you flirted with hotter women. Let her be angry and keep your mouth shut.

See this as a good excuse/reason to let this whole thing die out and game hot women. This will also save you from any false allegations, as there's multiplie witnesses that saw her get angry because you spoke to other women etc. Use this to your advantage.

Man, we warned you about this shit a long time ago. You've been playing with fire by fucking with this girl. She has reasons (in her mind) why this is all your fault - you knew her issues, you played along with the relationship shit for awhile, and she feels like the rug was pulled. This is NOT spinning a plate and it never was because you never established the nature of the relationship with her. It's not a FWB thing unless you are both aware of it. Understand that things might make sense to you because your a man, and you logically communicated those things to her, but in her mind they don't matter. Women operate based on feelings, and you made her feel bad.

Right now, idk what to tell you. Given this girl's history there could be legal fallout if she goes truly apeshit and wants to burn it all down.

She KNEW it wasn't an LTR. Yet she was treating it like one and I'm partially to blame at least for the incongruences in my behavior early on. She's furious or hurt because I talked with a few women in front of her. She's clearly not okay, her actions speak otherwise. I think the wisdom of following a woman's actions and not her words would apply here.

Right.

Still, you have to treat a FWB like a FWB. And chatting up other women in front of her probably isn't fair.

Some women are not cut out for non-exclusive.

I want to understand what the fuck is going on

She will not be able to explain it in reasonable terms.

I warned her that she may get hurt if we kept going, but she begged for my dick. I wish remind her of our pillow talk where she said she'd "be around for 1 year" and how I doubted that.

All this talk is POINTLESS because she feels. You talk, she feels. She feels, she talks. It's all about how she feels. Words will not help this.

This is standard shit..... women fall for men. It happens. There's nothing to discuss...... you patiently TELL her how things are between you, you tell her you care about her, and you do not negotiate. You also use words like "this isn't for everybody". You make it clear you like her, you hope it works, but if it doesn't then that's ok too, no hard feelings.

I NEED to know if she's hamstering reasons to blame me and hate me for all of this. Let this be a red pill moment for me.

Of course she's hamstering reasons to blame and hate you for all this. This is what women do. She feels and she holds YOU responsible. This is normal.

I don't think asking her for explanations will help one fucking iota.

She's furious or hurt because I talked with a few women in front of her.

I think this was a precipitating blunder on your part. One of the principles of plate management is giving her the ability to maintain a sense of deniable plausibility even though it's mutually clear that you are not an exclusive couple. By talking with, I presume you meant at least low key flirting with other women right in front of her? That's really in-her-face. For this to fly in ANY plate relationship, the man would have to represent an extraordinary Chad, and the woman would need to feel an unusual level of self-confidence and DGAF for a woman. In my own plate relationships, I worked from the assumption that neither was true, therefore it would be autistic not to know or caddish not to care that this would amount to choosing to knowingly hurt the woman's feelings.

My approach to plate relationships is based on a trading value for value model. She is delivering on the sex that I want out of the pairing. To keep the plate spinning, I deliver some of what she wants from it. Every woman is different, so by accurately reading what each desires and responds to, you can min/max your deliverables tailored to each plate and therefore not get sucked into giving full-girlfriend levels of boyfriend-like behaviors and expectations.

The "trick" I figured out, was to spontaneously deliver bits of what she wants, in the time and manner of MY choosing, rather than reactively to her resorting to asking, complaining, whining, bratting etc after a span of you delivering nothing she wants. This way, it feels effortless and even enjoyable to you, and her emotional/comfort cup doesn't run dry. Men are wired to get an endorphin rush for making their sex partner happy, so use/enjoy that on YOUR terms wherever possible and make the plate relationship work for both parties during the time you're together.

Then when you are apart, you're free to do whatever including talking to (fucking) other women, without obligation or remorse to the others in your roster.

You are about to attempt to negotiate with someone that did not reason themselves into the position they are in.

I get it, you don't want the plate to break. But this was always one of the potential outcomes. Own it. Accept it.

And realize that getting into a verbal spar with a woman about her feelings, whether you agree with the reason for them or not, is usually one of the biggest wastes of time that a man can engage in at minimum.