Hey redpillers
I'm almost 22 years old and still a virgin and I'm feeling really frustrated right now. I've never kissed, hugged, or even had a conversation with a girl in real life. I'm a very shy and introverted person and I just don't know how to talk to girls or anything.
I'm tired of being a virgin and I want to finally experience what it's like to have sex with a girl, but the problem is that I don't know how and just can't seem to find one that's easier to approach. I've tried online dating, and got into a long distance relationship but I've never met the girl and our relationship ended after a few months.
I can't even hold eye with a girl, and sometimes i blush and have anxiety and heart heart palpitations and start beating faster.
I live in a religious country where sex outside of mairriage is frowned upon in our society, and it's very hard to get sex from girls, but the girl I'm talking to now is an atheist feminist who had sexual experiences before, and a slut at least by our standards, which makes her easier than Many girls here, And she's a couple of months younger than me (21 years old).
I have been talking to her for a month now, i tried flirting with her and telling her that i like her even though I don't, and I'd love to to be in a friends with benefits relationship with her or a normal relationship but it seems like she rejected me in a nice way, she told me that she's having Metal health issues and problems in school and not ready for any kind of relationship and that she thinks that i just want her for sex, but we are still talking and laughing with each other and everything. I'm feeling frustrated and I don't know what to do. I want to feel what it's like to be with a women I need help on how to have a real-life interaction with a girl. Can someone please help me and guide me on how to make this happen?
Thanks in advance.
Bulba 1y ago
What is your country?
This is nearly impossible to answer if you don’t actually tell us where you’re from.
Walsh2023 1y ago
I'm from an Arab Muslim country in North Africa
User4566 1y ago
Give yourself a break for still being a virgin. It's okay, bud.
Walsh2023 1y ago
Thank you for your response, I really appreciate it.
Impressive-Cricket-8 1y ago
While I do get your urge to move past this threshold, trust me when I tell you a feminist slut is probably not the way to go - especially one that has mental health issues (which is probably all of them, to be honest). Another thing that I learned throughout the years: don't lie to the girl to get sex. If you have to lie to her, she'll probably be a headache later. Many will gladly offer the goods willingly; find one of those. And it's a matter of numbers, so while it could be 1 in 10 or 1 in a 1000, there's always going to be some girl willing to sleep with you.
As for your interaction with girls, the best thing you can do is start talking to them with no hidden agenda whatsoever. Ask for a girl about the time. Or how to get somewhere. Or ask a shopkeeper which shirt looks better in you. Make a point to have this small, inconsequential interactions as often as possible, and soon talking to any girl will become natural. You may still get a bit nervous when you're interested in the girl, but it'll still feel more natural to just talk to her.
Regarding where you live, I don't know how things are, but a big(ger) city propably would help your odds - you want the possibility of blending in and becoming nobody special. If there's somewhere like that you could go for an extended weekend without supervision, I'd make plans. Get a disposable phone number for this - the last thing you want is to be tracked down by a one night stand gone bad. Make sure you know how to put on condoms, and have your own. And then it's about logistics - getting the girl, having somewhere to bring her back, making sure she's out the door when it's over.
To get the girl, there's probably a thousand different ways. If you have a destination pretty much set, you can try to chat someone from there beforehand and have a date in mind for your visit. No need to take her out on a date per se, just mention casually getting together - ice cream, coffee, something cheap that doesn't take a long time (so you can either move things along or bail if it's going nowhere) and somewhat around where you'd take her if things go well (you don't want to spend 50 minutes in traffic before closing the deal). If you get to kissing, move somewhere a bit more discreet and escalate things - pay attention to her feedback. And if she's giving you nothing but green lights, ask her why don't we go somewhere else? - no need to name the place; in case she takes it wrongly, some plausible deniability is nice.
I would also add that, if you're cool with older woman, that could be an interesting route. I'm not saying to go for GILFs; you can probably find some good looking 27 to 31 years-old who's cool with or even into younger guys if you search long enough. They're not that common, but if you do find one it's a pretty much guaranteed jackpot. Just make sure she's cool with something casual (again, no need to lie about wanting some relationship with her; just say you're going to her city and is looking for someone cool to do some fun stuff with), and is not trying to trap some poor bastard into marriage by getting pregnang (hence bringing your own condoms).
Walsh2023 1y ago
Thank you for your response, I really appreciate it.
Lionsmane8 1y ago
I'm from a similar country.
Sex here is not as easy to get as from a western country. But it can be got.
The basic rules apply regardless of the situation. So spend some time reading and digesting the RP basics.
Also remember. All girls are sluts, the only variables that change are "to whom" and "context" (when, where etc.).
For girls in your specific case, you will need to have tighter game, build more "rapport", have multiple options and most importantly understand how much they value privacy/secrecy.
If you can portray the latter and make her understand that her reputation won't be tainted, she'll do anything.
Walsh2023 1y ago
Thank you for your response, I really appreciate it.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Dude just get a prostitute if it's that bad. Maybe go a town over or whatever.
Walsh2023 1y ago
Thank you for your response, I really appreciate it. but I'll never have sex with a prostitute even if i stay a virgin my entire life, i find prostitutes and Even promiscuous girls disgusting.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
To each their own. Arrange your own marriage.