I've been getting IOI's from a really attractive girl, but I've noticed that there's another guy, with around the same SMV, who's also interested in her. Worse still, he is also getting IOI's. I really want to get with this girl, but I don't know how I should act when the other guy and me are both speaking to her, or when I'm speaking to the guy in private. Should I cut back on my game when he's around, or should I exaggerate it to stake my claim? When speaking to the guy one-on-one, should I be friendly or slightly hostile? I hope you guys can help with this.
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coolsocks00 1 1y ago
First off you should be getting your dick wet with other women. If that's not happening for you right now; still meet/approach other women. You want to have actual abundance and be striving for that, not focusing on just one girl.
Second, "fighting" over a girl is a fools errand. It inflates her perceived value and plays into her frame, exactly how she would like it.
You should be amicable towards the guy and never act like you're competing with him. You're both in the marketplace and there's chicks for both of you. If she's into him dont get defensive, dont even stick around, find another chick. It really is that simple.
Otherwise keep gaming her. Girls like a guy who's unfazed by their shit and competition from other guys.
At the same time you will sometimes also see a guy being overly possessive early on and it working. Just like beta game is a bad dating strategy that works for the wrong reasons, this kind of posturing and AMOG behaviour is too IMO.
MidgetSpinner 1y ago
10 out of 10 response.
chadinthemaking69 1y ago
It’s tempting to want to tell the guy to fuck off but it will
a) make you look retarded
and
2) there are so many other girls
Typo-MAGAshiv 1 1y ago
Well said.
MidgetSpinner 1y ago
Just be friendly and cordial if you have to meet him, or if it can't be helped. This dude is not your competition, nor is he your enemy. He's just another dude trying to get in this girl's pants, so be un-phased by it especially considering she's not yours. There's a chapter in the Book of Pook you need to see. It's a little long, but it might help you:
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
If you read my recent statuses on the trp . red side you can read an actual example where my plate surprisingly sprung competition on me out of the blue
She threw that onto me without any awareness there was ankther guy in the picture. I had no idea
But that being said, it wasn't worth it.
I have no enthusiasm to compete with another man. In my case he got competition anxiety and tanked himself. I didn't have to do anything but hold frame and be relatively disengaged.
Prior to this incident and before I knew he was also banging my plate too, he introduced himself several weeks before that and was very friendly to me
This incident made me go from being friendly to him to giving him an overt cold shoulder. He has since tried to say hi to me with more maturity than I am showing, and I did say hi back. I have no intention to be a dick to this man, who in all likelihood has no idea I was banging her at all
I am not going to go out of my way to talk to him because it disgusts me, but at the same time I am not going to express hostility when he probably didn't know.
My bottom line here is that, even considering a situation where you had no idea there was another guy, it still wasn't worth. She did this to me when me her and him were all at the same venue on the same night.
It really isn't worth it to overtly compete with another man. And it really made me extremely uninterested in her in comparison to beforehand.
If you are insisting on competing, you should do what I did and offer minimal reaction to it. I just let him be extra thirsty, I stole her attention back to me a few times with minimal effort and valid reasons, I gave zero drama when it was my turn to have her attention, and then waited for him to fuck up, because I had an abundance/I'm gonna still fuck her anyway whether you're here or not mindset and he didn't. He had a zero sum mindset and cratered and now they aren't seeing each other
If you try to see this to the other side it will probably disgust you. I haven't seen the plate since then and have ghosted her last text to me
apeman 1y ago
You have scarcity mindset