when i have a plate or an LTR or any girl i'm interested in, I get really annoyed and bothered when they no longer text back straight away or act disinterested Immediately i start thinking they've replaced me with someone else and it really botheres now of course i never double text them or show neediness but deep down I start getting anxiety, start lookng at my phone, looking at their online status wondering who they are talking to and why have i been knocke off the perch its really bad i have this mentality how do I fix it? Like one plate i had, kept calling me and texting me saying how great i was then last few days barely responded/texted me.. shit like this drives me nuts for some reason i dont know why i care so much.
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Lionsmane8 1y ago
get used to it. the only think you can do is occupy her mental space, not the other way around. and yes, all girls are like that. even the ones that are getting intimate with you. just make sure you are the one giving her dick, not free attention.
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
It makes you question your place in this world, especially if your desires/ambitions exceed your abilities
Edit: depending on how much you value the opinion of women, not saying this is what you should base your self-perception on
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Depends what you value, a lot of guys don't care and shouldn't care what women think of him
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ESPN 1y ago
It's an extremely important "life rule" -- never compare yourself to other people.
It is a guaranteed path to misery, anxiety, and depression.
What you are doing is comparing yourself to hypothetical "better guys than you" that are trying to get their dick wet in a girl you like.
Intrepid_Place53900 1y ago
You care too much.
Don't put the girls on a pedestal.
Girls are just an accessory to your life, and they better add value to your life
Your goals are more important than girls
If a girl doesn't see you as her first choice, and treats you that way, she's not a LTR. She could be a good plate, casual option, but she's not a LTR>
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Intrepid_Place53900 1y ago
(most) young girls are like this,
Look, they aren't really looking for a relationship, if they are, it's on their terms. They have lots of options for fun, social media is killing their brain and attention span. This guy is fun, but these 5 guys I have on IG seem awesome, this one has a harley, this one has a boat, this one has a big D, whatever. Or simply they are showering her with attention, which women crave like a vampire craves blood.
when they grow up a bit, have to earn a living, sick of casual, realize most of the guys just wanted sex, then they may change their ways.
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
The problem is that you believe in a the league tables. "If girl A rejects me then I cannot get girls of the same hotness again".
Do some research on "lovebombing".
Because you haven't gotten your head around dealing with women yet.
You need to NOT CARE about any individual woman. Stop committing to one (or a few woman), stop changing your thoughts or behaviours when one shows interest. Keep gaming other women regardless.
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mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Because it's not that simple.
Noone can say "I am a 10, you are a 6, therefore we fucky fucky now".
Women reject men for a million reasons, including "I'm not confident enough" and "He's too good for me".
Leagues apply ON AVERAGE.... but they don't apply on an individual scale.
If you talk to 3 HB6's and none will fuck you, does that mean you're a 5? Or does it mean you need to stop sneezing on them the second you meet? You just don't know - you can't extrapolate from individual encounters.
But people do. And it's why they care so much.
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
This one snippet of a comment just gave me profound insight I wasn't expecting
Durek_The_Bald 1y ago
First, be clear what you're talking about. "Plate", "FWB", "LTR", "girl I'm interested in"? You react like this to all of them?
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Boosted_Arrow 1y ago
Well you know you're not her first. You're just her "Backup". And I get it, this sucks, bc. she 'labels' you as "just good enough." Maybe instinctiviely you know this is not ideal, bc. she might jump to sb. else, when presented with a better opportunity. I'll say it again: you're not her first alpha choice. As Rollo Tomassi says it: You want non-negotiated genuine burning desire. Which you don't have with this girl. She won't die for you, or whatever. Do with this info what you want.
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Boosted_Arrow 1y ago
I quote Rollo again: Women that are truly into you, will not confuse you.
Maybe she's unstable, then she's for recreational use only. Or you should get away from her.
akihonj 1y ago
You're spinning plates and they are playing push/pull, they are winning.
The theory of push/pull is they push hard then pull away, we know it and do it too, go right to the line and pull them in then back off and let them miss you.
That's what they are doing with you and you are getting sucked into it because you are missing them.
Hold your frame, remember these are plates, they aren't expected to be loyal. They aren't expected to be anything other than a distraction when you're bored.