Throughout our relationship she steadily gained weight but mostly kept it under control and fell into the curvy category, but it did it for me so didn't care. Now we broke up 8 weeks ago and although it was somewhat amicable, it still hurt like a mother fucker and fucked me up for a solid 5 weeks emotionally as I felt all that heartbreak shit that turns out actually fucking hurts, a lot. Anyway, I then had the last 3 weeks until now where I mentally have been starting to actually acknowledge that it IS over, and I will NOT be seeing her again. It's been a gradual reduction of stress and I am sort of beginning to feel ok again.
Now today I come across her sister's profile on FB and the cover photo is this family shot and, in the picture, is my ex and I swear she has gained like 10kg I swear. I immediately felt better because the person I was looking at would not be someone I would want to pursue intimately. I actually zoomed in and had a holy shit moment and then felt this relief wash over me like damn that's fucked up and I hope for her sake she gets it under control but also wow I dodged a bullet right there ok no I can do much better then, that kind of thing.
TLDR ex got fat and I feel much better. Am I going to hell?
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MrSupreme 8 months ago
That literally happened to me today, searched an ex on social media and turns out she has a shitty hairdo and has put on a few kilos too, I'm glad cause it wasn't too amicably we parted
Vermillion-Rx 8 months ago
Normal.
It's called schadenfreude. Her gaining wait doesn't exactly fit the definition but it sounds like part of the component here
This situation doesn't sound exactly like schadenfreude but her drastically losing sexual marketplace value in conjunction with knowing she's no longer attractive to you is helping.
Intrepid_Place53900 8 months ago
We all have ego's , we all measure ourselves against others, etc.
This situation, sure makes sense to feel better.
You had a concern in the relationship, this girl is young and has trouble controlling weight. What happens if we become LTR,etc? She's probably been keeping it under control for you, now that you are gone, she's feeding her stress. some feed it, some starve it,etc.
She may get it under control when she wants a guy, or wants to keep a guy. Doesn't matter , not your problem.
Like you said, you hope for her sake she gets it under control. That's good thoughts.
When you get older, you'll have to keep an eye on the (skinny fat) girls. They look ok and thin in clothes,etc but there's no tone, no muscle, just flab. Grosses me out.