I moved into University 4 days ago and in my hall on my floor there are 5 people, 3 guys and 2 girls. I have worked my charm on both girls by being humorous and charismatic and everything was going swell.
So the night before I asked her out I texted her on snap and said to meet me in the kitchen before 10 as I'm heading out for an induction to my course. She woke up around 10:30 and said that she just woke up and that I can just text it to her.. And this is where it gets tricky.
So today I texted her and said that "I'm going to the local park on XYZ day you can come with if you'd like". She previously agreed to come when I asked her during a hour and a half long convo we had in the kitchen alone together in which in escalated briefly but nothing sexual, I did put my hand on the small of her back though. But yeah.. It probably was forgotten due to the heat of the moment I'm not sure.
But anyways since that message was sent she didn't open it for 8 hours and I 100% know she's seen it as the five of us as roommates left campus together and of course used our phones. We have a group chat too and she added someone else to it so she's definitely on the app. She also opened it about an hour ago.
So I don't know how to proceed, is this a shit test?, she has gave me alot of IOS during that hour and a half long convo we had so I'm confused.
So far she avoids eye contact with me now and kind of excludes me but I still maintain the same composure as I'm an outgoing guy and that's just my nature but she isn't responding the same. She gives eye contact when I directly ask her something but that's it, I've withdrawn my attention from her to see if that does anything but I don't know if that's the best move? Any advice guys?
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was I wrong to try and get involved with a girl in my uni accommodation floor? After all you have to go for what you like right?
- She is 21 & I'm 19
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
1) you're way overthinking this
2) you either didn't escalate enough or not very well
3) she probably doesn't want to shit where she eats, and neither should you, you live on that floor for a year at least
4) have abundance, you're getting tripped up over a single girl you have known for a few days
5) I don't think she's interested, find other prospects that don't live in your immediate space
Glaceo 1y ago
True thanks for the reality check I actually approached 7 girls today and got all their socials so I will hit them up.
Glaceo 1y ago
Do you think it's worth telling her anything to clear the awkwardness on her end?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Nice, always be playing the field (unless you're exclusive to someone)
No, just be cordial and live your life. If she chats just say hi back, be natural. Girls get asked out all the time, talking about it is what's gonna make it awkward
Glaceo 1y ago
Appreciate that man thanks will do.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
No problem
kv2_0833 1y ago
1) So the night before I asked her out I texted her on snap and said to meet me in the kitchen before 10 as I'm heading out for an induction to my course. 2) She woke up around 10:30 and said that she just woke up and that I can just text it to her 3) today I texted her and said that "I'm going to the local park on XYZ day you can come with if you'd like
You're moving way too quick. You move this quick with girls that show you high IOIs. 2) indicates that she's not crazy for you especially "you can just text it to her", this makes me think that 1) made you come across as a bit of a sperg to her. Also you're living together so you may have misinterpreted her friendliness/eagerness to make connections as IOIs.
What do? Just ignore her for now, proceed as normal, don't even think about anything, act as if nothing happened because tbh nothing really did happen.
Glaceo 1y ago
Ur right, I see that now especially what you said with me mistaking her friendliness for IOIs.
fumbor 1y ago
You shat where you ate Why not start gaming other chicks? And if this one becomes more receptive again , then great. If not, you can just find another. Just don’t get hung up on her
Since we’re Gen Z I can add a little advice, just start putting other chicks on your Snapchat story, but don’t make them the focus of the story. Just have them in the background. It works pretty well
Of course easier said than done though
Glaceo 1y ago
Yh I'm gaming other girls I just set up a date with a girl who's showing moderate to high interest, and thanks for that Snapchat tip making them the focus does make it look obvious that you're trying to flex so putting them in the background is a better option.
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Ti123 1y ago
Don’t get isolated. Isolate her from her friends. Talk to everyone and deliberately ignore when she says something. Talk to her friends and ignore her. She’ll fall in line. It’s hard because you have to have different level of charm to pull this off otherwise just talk to your mutual friends