In my experience, whenever I have asked a potential or actual LTR about her past relationships I felt like they lost a bit of respect for me afterwards. Asking questions about her past relationships implies that you care about her past and are 'afraid' that she potentially is an alpha widow or are insecure on some level. Like why should I care if I truly believe I am the top dog? Like it doesn't matter who the fuck she dated before, she won't get better than me? Am I right, that's the vibe and attitude you should be giving off, not asking all these questions about her n=count, longest relationship etc.
Also, if you truly are the top prize and worthy of her, it doesn't matter what bullshit she tells you, you should have enough experience to know if she is a slut or not, or she has been alpha widowed or not. Her actions and how she treats you over dating her or LTRing her for 2 years should be enough of a fucking tell-tale sign what she is like.
Example...
Person A: A hot 23 year old that has an n count of 2, come from a conservative, well to do family, never slept around or had casual sex, doesn't smoke or drink, but has given herself completely to one of these guys she dated maybe dated some dude she really loved, has been alpha widowed by 1 of them and be fucked up for the rest of her life.
Or you could have a pretty hot 26 year old, that has an n count of 8, but hasn't really been serious given herself much to any guy, drinks every now and then, and be totally normal and treat you really really well.
On paper person A is 100x better than person B, but the reality of it is person B would make a much better partner LTR long term.
So in conclusion, is there any point in asking a woman about her past? Isn't it best to just see by the way she acts and treats you/everyone around her and how she is as a person right now?
Intrepid_Place53900 1y ago
You don't ask for actual N count. You inquire over time about past relationships, does she have kinks, has done craze stuff and how that all lined up. You slowly put the pieces of the puzzle together.
is it important, only if you see this girl as a LTR, if not, it doesn't matter at all.
If you want her as a LTR, it's part of the vetting. Many times on here you've heard, the past is the best indicator for the future.
Relationships, how they went, why they broke up, how she reacts to it.
Sex, was she a slut, how bad. Is that going to impact her down the road?
You put it all together. Sure, of course you observe how she is now, how she acts, how she treats you, that is of course the most important. but, you can't really know someone until you've been with them for years. That takes time, you don't want to waste time.
do you want to bother to get to know a girl who was doing the football team? You'd rather know now , versus a year in, right?
Oh, not your business? Bull, if that's her attitude, then she's gone, what else is she hiding.
SeasonedRP 1y ago
Yes, you are absolutely correct. Asking about n count or prior relationships identifies you as a chump who is inexperienced with women and someone who can be easily deceived. I see so many posts on here by guys who ask those questions and wonder what on earth possessed them to do so.
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Loneliness-inc 1y ago
What's wrong with caring about her past?
Lol. This is so cringy.
Read this line slowly and think it over. Read it again.
You place women on such a high pedestal, that it takes achieving the pinnacle of manhood, just to reach up to the nether regions of your average woman.
I don't even know what to say to this... just please get some help. Learn how to have a smidgen of self respect. Please.
It's either important or it isn't. If it's important, you ask. If it isn't important, don't ask.
If sex is as meaningless as a handshake, who cares about her past. But no one considers sex to be this meaningless. Everyone values sex much more than a mere handshake.
Furthermore, the main thing she has to offer to a man, is sex!
That's why her past matters.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
This is a blue pill mentality of "don't judge me". It's up to each man to decide what he can live with in a woman. If you want to wife up a hoe, wife up a hoe but don't lie to yourself and say her past doesn't matter. Eventually your kids will come home talking about how their friends found mommy's butthole pics on onlyfans.