I just recently broke up with my LTR (~1.5yrs). I've been thinking about it for a while and as the initial lust has worn off, red flags became more visible. Frankly, I just don't think we are a good fit and there's no use kicking the can down the road. She's been messaging me asking lots of questions to which I haven't given much detail, just said I don't want to be together anymore and I don't think we are good together.
However, we had two holidays booked - one in a few weeks, one a little bit later. Now she's saying "I deserve my holidays, so I think we should still go and be civil together, just not see each other before, and then we can debrief afterwards." All the while she is sending 12 texts in a row about it and continually asking me to expand on why I broke up with her.
I said this is a terrible idea and I can see her being vindictive and wanting to just rip into me the whole time OR even try to make me jealous by flirting with other guys in front of me (the 2nd trip is a party one, going with my friends). I also think she's trying to manipulate me into feeling guilty about her holidays and potentially try to reel me back in.
Thoughts on this? Suggestions on proceedings?
Thank you
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bonus813 1y ago
If you want baecation pussy then go for it. But shes an ex for a reason, I assume you dumped her and clearly dont want her back otherwise you wouldve taken her back.
She will obviously try to convince you to LTR her again. And if not, she will trap you on vacation with intense interrogations and will most likely walk away with some form of closure because you cant really ignore someone you are on vacation with (whats the point?).
If you think you can get pussy out of this without giving closure or exclusivity it may be worth it if you are able to tolerate the potential nagging for closure
NeoSpartan 1y ago
So just cancel them, or tell her she can't come and it's over. I don't get why you are considering going through with this, it's a terrible idea.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Maybe she has a friend that wants to buy your ticket or you have a friend that wants to buy hers? If it were me I'd just go and get a bunch of hookers and blow. What's funny is she just lost a 1.5yr relationship and all she can think about is her self and her vacation. When I kicked my narcissist mom to the curb all she could think about was giving me all the photos she had of me. Like "Oh, I just lost my son, I guess I better delete any evidence I had one so it doesn't make me look bad in front of others".
financehardo420 1y ago
easy bro just ghost her and swap the tix for like an ig model whore or one of her hot friends
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Hookers and blow. Same-same.
financehardo420 1y ago
Cocaine is one helluva drug
MrSupreme 1y ago
Would love to hear about whatever happened on that mom story
whytehorse2021 1y ago
She tried to sell our joint company out from under me and when that failed she colluded with a con man to make a hostile take-over possible. This was after I spent 10 years helping her get back on her feet after her 2nd husband died and she had a farm to run. I'm still in the courts dealing with it years later. The con man has the farm and company thanks to her and I spent all my money on lawyers. I had a shitty lawyer in the beginning and took some major losses. Now I'm fighting an uphill battle. She's probably off on some cruise paying man-whores to fuck her 70+yr old ass.
MrSupreme 1y ago
Dang, that's sad mate, I'm not one to believe in unconditional love,not anymore at least
whytehorse2021 1y ago
You can get that from your sons and bros. Maybe a dog but they can't really tell you so it doesn't count.