we officially met 2 weeks ago at the apartment gym , I opened by "offering" to give away my unused yoga mat because the community one she was using are nasty. We introduced each other and made a small talk that was it.
Last week, I was taking out my trash and she was just coming out of her door, I said "hello and told her she can reach out to my apt. for any trouble or emergency" and said thanks and then she kinda got shy and stared at her phone while waiting for the elevator.
How should I proceed? Should I drop it? Slow game? (Build rapport) or do I go Direct (aggresive) maybe ask her for dinner or go jog?, I dont want to seem like the weird neighbor stalker.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
You're being way too generous to this girl. She's going to lump you into a provider category if she hasn't already. Your game up to this point has been provider game. Stop.
You need to build attraction, not provide help and assistance. Read how to game, this is not game.
Stimulate her emotions, tell her you're going to x event or whatever and invite her. Get her to do an actual activity with you or do more than just small talk
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Offering things is beta. It might work, but know that paying is unattractive.
Know that women will not interpret this as "I should make an excuse to see this guy".
This looks like what it is: you are too weak to make a move so you make yourself available hoping she will.
"Oh hey, I'm just going round the corner for coffee, come join me".
Make sure you always are ready for this, night and day, and you can just pull out the line when you need it.
Chances are she'll say no the first time, so make sure to ask twice. After that keep it cordial but don't keep asking.