It finally happened, it only took 3 months of me working up the balls to actually pull the plug. I'm 25 and dumped my 31F LTR. The thing that killed it was finding out she had a FWB.
Believe it or not it was one of my kinks to be a much younger guy, hence why I LTR'd the whore in the first place. Except now I'm finding out her FWB from 6 years ago was 18 and she was 25. Basically, she was putting out to an 18y/o that just saw her as a ticket for free sex whenever he texted her. And here I was entertaining the idea of marriage with her.
I feel almost good/empowered because I finally did it. I told her to her face straight up "you let other guys use you for sex. that's what you're good for. I shouldn't have led you on about marriage. Good luck out there, im sure there is some divorced 30 year olds that may want to marry someone used up like you. But i cant lock myself up with a used up leftover woman when I'm hitting my prime. Im sorry."
Now that I'm home, I'm getting hit with the "good times" memories. We had a lot and she is super special because she's my first for many things, basically everything including first LTR, except sex. I'm going to sound like a giant pussy, but this girl was truly as close to a unicorn as I'll get. With that body count of 5, and her FWB being younger than me (I would have been 20 at that time), I just felt like puking. If she hadn't had that nasty ass history, she probably could have been the one. OR maybe it's just emotions making me say that. I told her that anyway, and it totally seemed to break her.
I feel so empty and hollow. I'm laying in my bed and wish I could just sleep until this feeling wears off but it's not. I dont know how to get over this and I feel shitty.

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aj14 3y ago
I can't believe I could have been so whipped.
coolsocks00 1 3y ago
You dont get to pick.
aj14 3y ago
It took me asking like 4 different times on these threads, but it finally clicked. If I never stumbled on this site, I would have been so fucked. Picturing myself committed and marrying this mattress actually makes me cringe. I guess I'd rather feel how I feel right now than that way.
abitofmemory 3y ago
one more insight: there is always a bigger fish. this fact makes me think that i will never be able to get married
abitofmemory 3y ago
u cant know future for sure (the "will get" means future time according to my eng language knowledge)
i would not c her having a younger fwb in the past as a red flag. even more, i would never compare my age to his. girls want to fuck and they fuck. she is not magician to pick a precise age she wants and 25 with 18 yo seems fine to me.
aj14 3y ago
I think I'm mostly turned off because when we first started dating, she made the age gap a big deal. Now finding out that she opened her legs to a guy with a bigger age gap, she's purely worthless in my eyes.
abitofmemory 3y ago
use the same rule as applies to job search. dont leave the current job until u find a new one. i find it easier to find a new girl while u still have a pussy to fuck.
sometimes, i enjoy solitude tho.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 3y ago
(she made the age gap a big deal). Yup, she was playing you up. Same as when women try to tell each guy they are with, you are the biggest, or the best or the most this or that.
She's trying to get what she wants, keep you tame. why not demote her to a plate or FWB though? She wouldn't go with it?
Hint, for future relations with women: (they all lie) about N count, what they've done, who've they've been with. They all will modify/change/omit whatever is needed, to fit what is needed to keep you interested in them.
Hanscheezburger 3y ago
This is the reason:
You don't miss the person. You miss the memories with that person. And memories can be overwritten.
Go out and meet new people. You're a young guy, so get in good shape and find some chicks. Fuck 5 good looking women and that oneitis will be gone
financehardo420 3y ago
Dude no offense but this is beta behavior as fuck. You got mad that she had a fwb 6 years ago?
When she was 25 and not 31?
When she didn’t even know who you were let alone be with you??
And for those reasons you decided fuck it not down to continue having good sex?
Tf???
Are you gay or some shit?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
@aj14
I would have to partially agree here. There were a dozen reasons to dump her, but you didn't have to lash out like you did to your LTR. You can break up in a civilized manner
whytehorse2021 3y ago
We all have standards. She was loose with her sexuality in her prime and now is tight with it in her decline? How convenient. Plus she's not even counting all the hook ups, blow jobs, hand jobs, rim jobs, etc. I've known plenty of hoes that were great people and I wanted to stay with forever but there's always that nagging thought in the back of your mind that you may come home one day and eat her out and lick some other dude's cum out of her. Let some other dude take care of her for the next 60 years while you slide up in her when he's at work.
Oh and you can pick one:
You can be right; or