After years of trying different things I have come to the conclusion I cant be myself if i want to attract women. I've tried different things but it always comes down to the same things;;
Shoe lifts to make me taller Good hair / hair cut Clean shaven or a bit of stuble Clear skin Shredded / Abs tanned
I'm not trying to act like I deserve women for just being 'me'. But what If i want to grow a beard? What if I want to grow my hair long? What if I want to put on some size/muscle instead of being shredded? What if I want to have a 'cheat meal'. I can't be "myself" becauase being "myself" is not attractive to women. Also personality I always have to act confident, energetic, outgoing, fun, no matter how depressed or miserable I am inside. I have to always wear a MASK.
How do I cope with this? Knowing that for me tot be attractive to women, I cant even be "myself" I need to be a cookie cutter version of me
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TriumphoftheSwill 1y ago
No women are themselves with me. Fake hair, bra to make bigger tits, clothes to hide fat, makeup to hide age, and then they lie about everything. Constantly. For no reason.
If men watched women on their day alone they would have no interest in them.
GrassIsGood 1y ago
There are some that would say you are fine to be yourself and accept that you might not get as much female attention.
There are others that would say the entire point of the red pill is to get out of this exact mindset - that changing your beliefs, and therefore your actions, and therefore your results - means you aren't being yourself.
It's up to you whether you want to see changing your beliefs about women and life, or maybe just acting on new beliefs, as not being yourself. Personally I see it as self-improvement...and eventually it gets cemented into you, just as your previous belief set did, and becomes who you are.
It's up to you who you are.
NeoSpartan 1y ago
Women do the same thing for us if that helps ya.
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
If you are a pussy inside you should self improve so that you become stronger and more attractive. Then you no longer need to fake it, problem solved.
Life is neither fair nor easy.
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Right...
def yes
yes if it works for you
Look, it's a competition.
"Just be yourself and you'll be attractive" is complete horseshit. We all have to make compromises to be attractive. Most women have to work out, eat less, wear makeup to be attractive to us. Most guys have to work on different aspects of their personality than they'd prefer to in order to be attractive.
It's a compromise between what you want and what you're happy to do.
Why the fuck should "doing what you feel like" make you more attractive to women? What fucked up world do you live in?
Shopkeepers don't give you food in order for "paying what you like".
You don't get a job for "turning up when you feel like it".
Which blue pill deranged programming made you think you can just be yourself and have women flock to you? I can't do that, and most other men can't either. It's a competition. Go and win it.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
@financehardo420 is only like 5'8" and gets lots of pussy.
financehardo420 1y ago
I just want a different girl for every day of the week :’(
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Been there, done that. Met a lot of guys who've been there/done that. Eventually it becomes a matter of convenience vs variety. All of us eventually got married to a woman that has genuine desire for us. I think that's the key ingredient to repeatedly fucking the same woman over and over. She just latches onto your balls and keeps them drained until you die.
financehardo420 1y ago
Makes sense tbh. I was shooting my shot at a bunch of dimes; towards the end of night tho locked eyes with one and i could tell it was on
financehardo420 1y ago
The only reason you should ever not be yourself is if you’re a super duper next level mega dork or some kinda creep.
Read sidebar; SMV is dictated by a couple pretty easy categories:
1) looks (ya you might be born ugly but you can fix that via gym, eating healthy, getting your body in shape and getting better clothes etc etc)
2) wealth (income/income earning potential). Kinda self explanatory; kiddos cost monies. all these whores eventually want a baby daddy; if you want the best whores make the most money. Simple google research of top paying careers; then follow the study needed to achieve those and boom you’ve done what like 80% of the country can’t. It’s a lot more pretty girls than dudes earning hella gwuap in the world - easy way to separate yourself from competition.
3) tbh I’m a lil high rn and forgot the last one but those two are pretty solid foundations. I guess idk game or some shit like learn how to talk to girls. Do this by making it a point to talk to a new girl every day everywhere (groceries, gym, movies, bars, literally fuckin anywhere world is your oyster).
Building yourself up in these categories doesn’t mean you can’t be yourself. if anything it’s just living as the best version of yourself