My current ltr has had a family vacation planned since before we were together. She’s going with her mom, step dad, and sister. She has two younger siblings but they are not going as this is an adult trip.
After seeing all the horror stories on here I’m really not cool with my girl going on this trip especially because of the locations, Miami and Mexico.
Ltr wants me to go and asked her mom but the answer was no because ltrs mom does not like me.( We have had issues in the past as she has verbally and physically abused my ltr)
The vacation isn’t until about 5 months from now. This is hard because of the circumstance of why I can’t go. My ltr agrees we should always travel together and says she wishes I could go.
What should I do? Am I being too insecure on this one? I know what goes on in those places and know my ltr will be drinking with her family and also know they do not like me so they wouldn’t care if she cheated on me.
gr8bollos 1y ago
This is kinda different, shes on a trip with her family. Girls are usually in a different mindset on family trips, and as you said it was pre-planned.
Your LTR sounds young and most likely will be rooming with her family as well. Shes not on a girls trip with a hotel available for fuck boys to come through.
She may flirt with the "hot" waiter though, or some other corny tourist stories we hear from young teenage girls.
You are definitely being insecure though, too. Dont listen too much to Red Pill assumptions it will drive you crazy and make you assume your girl is constantly sucking Chad off behind your back. You will make something out of nothing and you will seem like the crazy insecure jealous one in the end if you listen to redpill tales all the time and project them into your relationship with no proof.
LudgerKresnik 1y ago
this is the right answer and should listen to.
you don't have nothing to worry since it's a family trip she will not go there to get fuck or railed by some greek god athlete from miami and mexico yeah she will see alot of good looking good , higher status with a six pack abs but that's it she will be there to enjoy the vacation / views / taking photo (to show off her lifestyle in social media).
you don't need to chat her every time and obsess about her like a psycho when she's in vacation let her enjoy the moment you are a busy man with abundance mentality.
Icevanman 1y ago
Fuck thank you for the clarity your right I let the rp stories get to my head.
gr8bollos 1y ago
I learned this the hard way. My girl is really good behavior wise, but when shes not perfect, its easy to isolate the incident and listen to a certain redpill tale about this or that, their girl did the same thing, blah blah. But it takes away from the context and overall behavior of your girl as a whole.
For example, your girl could flake 1 in 100 meetups. But if you are so attached to that flake, and take it to red pill they will tell you that shes no longer interested, your her second option, etc just some really extreme outlier accusations. But the truth is that flakes do happen, it was a 1% flake which is still an A+ overall.
Obviously you need to look for a cluster of bad behavior/signs/red flags before you start getting disappointed with your girl. Not just 1 or 2 here and there. No girl is a unicorn. Im convinced half these guys on this forums dont actually deal with real life women and theyre some sort of redpill theorists who are actually incels getting started in gaming. No girl is a unicorn, they will exhibit some bad trait that redpill hates. You gotta see if you can train them out of it or if you are acting beta. Then decide if the good outweighs the bad.
Once your girl starts seriously shit testing you consistently, disrespecting you, withdrawing sex, that is the real time to begin worrying about her cheating. At that phase she is most likely found your replacement so she gains confidence that she no longer needs you, and is trying to make you dump her so she can swing over. Not just a family vacation assuming things are going smoothly.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Remove the word family and this woukd have been a VERY different post
Don't let it go to your head. Everyone else covered it pretty well already
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hornetsfalcons12 1y ago
I’m actually cool with shrugging it off.
1) it is a family trip 2) it was scheduled before you two were a thing.
It’s not like she randomly threw a “girls week” at you out of the blue, that she’ll be leaving for in a week and a half. She’s going to be hanging out with her family. She’s probably not looking to get laid. Even if she was, she’d have to combat the fact that her family will definitely notice if she’s gone for awhile.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
She should establish boundaries with her family. If you can't go, she won't go. I can see this becoming a problem in the future if it's not dealt with now. Once her dad realizes his daughter might be moving back in and he'll have to support her... he'll keep his woman in line.