Started working as a bartender in a restaurant 3 months ago. I know, don't shit where you eat, but it's just a student job for during the weekends. Made out with one of my co-workers during some kind of teambuilding activity. After that she was texting me all the time, asking me how my exams were going, wishing me a happy birthday, ... Both of us were busy with exams so we didn't text for like 4 weeks. Last message she sent me is that I'd get 4 big kisses for my birthday.
Yesterday was my first night back and she was being weird as fuck. I asked her how her exams went and she basically ignored me. She was supposed to do the bar with me, but switched with another girl. Whole evening long she didn't even look me into the eyes, only when she really needed something, she would ask me in some bitchy way. Before she'd always come over, and flirt.
I held frame, just did my job, but I'm just curious. Is she just playing games? Or why is she suddenly acting like a stuck up bitch when nothing happened?
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pfeilmacher 1y ago
You held frame? lmao Bro, you never made the fucking move. Same shit used to happen to me when I was young, dumb, and full of soy.
Held frame gtfo.
Either shit or get off the pot! GIRLS DO NOT LIKE INDECISIVE GUYS.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Few things stick out:
Don't fucking text this much. Text for logistics and occasionally something funny or momentarily worthwhile. She came to expect that
Was she anticipating you do it and you didn't? Did exams really prevent you from interacting with her. Huge rapport break to go from texting all the time (which is a bad idea to begin with) to not talking at all
Was that right when you two stopped texting her for a month? If so did you even respond to that?
A lot of this probably stems from texting (and suddenly stopping it). Texting is often ground zero for mismatches in expections etc.
Pfeilmacher actually said something I forgot to say, you didn't make any moves. Making out is not making a solid move if you do that and then never escalate past it ever. Combine that with stopping talking to her and she's gonna feel rejected sexually