I have always wondered why some people hate you,even though you never hated them or gave them a reason for. I can never forget a girl from primary school the most attractive one hated me from the bottom of her heart,even at 14 she was shrewd,she would be nice and smile at me when we talk but behing my back she would persuade other girls to not go with me,gossip me and persuade other girls to bully me. i never did anyone anything wrong and never at that age could expect that from humans. Through life the same happens some people just don't like you for no reason,in front of you they act friendly but behind your back they gossip you and talk shit about you.
I could never hate someone for no reason,I don't like to bully other beings and to bring them pain,how do such people exist?
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whytehorse2021 1y ago
It's a deep down psychological thing. They feel bad inside. They can't control their feelings so they try to control the feelings of others by making them feel bad. It's a type of defective cry for help.
pocketroxx 1y ago
Girls hate betas. If you were bullied by GIRLS then that says a lot, dont you think?
Forget it though, maybe you were a contextual beta back then (only in that social circle), or maybe you were a beta awkward teenager or something. How are you now..? Thats all that matters.
Even high value people that you respect have been perceived as low value in other circles growing up, you only see the current result in the present moment.
Ideally you should be hated on from being successful, not bullied for being a loser or awkward, or whatever they made fun of you for.
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AllBlack087 1y ago
Then how not to be a beta,how would you define alpha and beta in the first place?
master-of-losers 1y ago
Off topic, but I disagree. Girls like betas because they provide for them. Girls need both betas for provision and alphas for sperm.
What girls hate are omegas.
pocketroxx 1y ago
I meant to say omegas. That word isnt exactly in my vocabulary loll.
AllBlack087 1y ago
By what criteriums am I was low value,in my eyes they were lower value then me,and never felt a need to prove to anyone, but I never hated someone for that?
pocketroxx 1y ago
Being hated on is not the bad thing here, its the context. You were picked on by the Stacy's of your high school. Idk man, I went to high school too and they usually picked on betas. But gossiped about alphas.
AllBlack087 1y ago
No one picked on me in highschool,it was elementary school.But I get your point,it makes sense,probbably people have a tendency to attack lower value people ,but usually what is lower is in the sense of observer .it is not always a value ,but a percieved value. For example the best chess player in the country might think of himself as the best high value man,he may be respected in chess social circle but if he goes to a place of football player and their groopies he is just nerd weirdo.
Hanscheezburger 1y ago
he still is. humans are social creatures, our value is determined by society and how many actually perceive it. You can be the best sudoku player in the world but in the end, nobody really cares
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Nice guy/no backbone vibes
Sounds like they just don't see you as someone without much frame and command. Probably are too nice to everyone or too accommodating
AllBlack087 1y ago
Can be in highschool I used to be wicked towards people and the worse I was to them the more they liked me to an extent,if you cross the line they start hating you again
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Giving people shit (when it's mutual fun), setting boundaries, establishing priorities, etc, makes people respect you.
I don't know what your other vibes or behaviors might have been, but it doesn't sound like it might have been the above
Or maybe it was something else, I don't know with the information given
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Being low status is enough to invite attack.
Insecure, stupid, irrational....... most people are struggling to try and maintain status in their group without offering much value, which means they have to eliminate low status threats to them and the group. Sometimes this means you.