I haven't made any comment about it, but I started recently wondering if there could be any deeper meaning. My first thought was that she wasn't over him yet, but I don't know. Thoughts?
Edit: Clothes the ex wore. I never put much thought into it and frankly am not even gonna see this relationship through since it's casual and we both know it has an expiration date on it due to life circumstances.
Edit 2: She mentioned it was her ex's shirt without me saying anything when we were getting it on as to assure me it's okay to get a lil physical and or rip the shirt I guess. It just surprised me and I carried on. And now I just posted here b/c I wondered why keep an old shirt, but it seems maybe that it's not a big deal
Posting this to understand and better deal with in future relationships
Intrepid_Place53900 1y ago
First, it's casual, she's made it clear that it "won't" be more than that, enjoy it.
second, it's a form of a shit test. Looking for reaction/jealousy, etc. Call it whatever, for whatever reason, it's a shit test. He was probably an alpha for her, he pumped and dumped or she couldn't get him to commit.
Be thankful when girls do things like this, it makes figuring things out easy.
ballstowall 1y ago
So, in the future with other girls if I meet a similar situation, then that means they aren't over them and I should keep it casual?
Intrepid_Place53900 1y ago
a girl who does this, again, is giving you a shit test, it's an insult.
Keep her as a FB, she's nothing more.
In the future if you meet a girl who does this, it's the same.
Flip it.
How do you think the girl would react if you did similar to her?
ballstowall 1y ago
When I went looking online, I saw a shit tone of similar questions and most girls seem to say it's just clothing. Are they all full of bs and still mooning over exes or do some women actually just consider it a piece of clothing?
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Intrepid_Place53900 1y ago
(believeinthefallen) is right on mark
A woman's hamster is quite amazing at warping reality.
I've hung out with women as a friend and "was cool with them" so they'd talk in front of me. I've heard things like, "oh I don't count having sex with those guys because we used condoms", or I hooked up with Joe again last week, but that's not cheating, he's a friend.
How about, I was drunk, so those 2 guys last night don't count.
Like WTF, right?
Your view and judgement will be infinitely more accurate than a woman's POV in this area. Her POV will be time/reality warped to fit what is good for her.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
If LTR, fuck no. If casual only like you have, who cares?
She might have fond memories wearing it. Might be a good lazy shirt for her if it's over-sized etc. As intrepid said, she could be testing you, but I think you're reading too far into it given that this will never become a relationship
ballstowall 1y ago
I'm mostly using this as a lesson on how to interpret things going forward with other women. She isn't the only girl I'm seeing thank god, so I feel less investment but I do like learn as much as I can from personal experience and apply.
When I went looking online, I saw a shit tone of similar questions and most girls seem to say it's just clothing. Are they all full of bs and still mooning over exes or do some women actually just consider it a piece of clothing?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Fair enough,
Yeah no. A huge reason is they like the baggy breathability that differs from girls clothing but there is sentiment in wearing a dudes shirt they care/cared about at some point
It's part comfort/part sentiment for a lot of girls. Whether she still thinks fondly or to what degree of that guy is unknown but she isn't keeping it purely because it's comfortable
delesseyM 1y ago
Tell her that it's an horrendous shirt, and she should start to dress properly as you don't want to be seen with a homeless girl.