I'd recommmend Aaron Clareys "The Menu" as a must read for men that are making the decision to leave the dating arena. For most men, most of our actions in our life since puberty have been at least partially motivated by the pursuit of women - your career choice, hitting the gym, dressing well, friends, living location etc. It's clear the dating space is completely unsalvegable at this point and most men will fail to achieve what they traditionally define as a health stable relationship with a women, even after putting the effort . Problem is, once you make the calculated decision to leave the dating arena, you realize how many things you have done in the past where the result of pursuing women and suddenly those things have less meaning and your motivation plummets - usually it catchse you by surprise until you introspect further. "why am I working at this job that sucks 50 hours a week? - oh it's because I'm trying to make more money since I heard women like financial security "why do I live in this overly priced apartment next to a trendy area - oh it's because I heard that women like a man with a nice crib" "why did I spend 100 dollars on a custom tailored dress shirt - oh its because when I puirchased it i was trying to bring out my v-taper for women". you need to re-direct your motivation towards a new purpose - community, passions, health - freeing up your time and energy towards what makes you happy, completely indepedent of the opposite sex.
You may start doing odd things that belie your perviously manufactured personality like buying your clothes from a thriftshop because you are longer trying to impress women. you my choose to suddenly work only 20 hours a week since there is no motivation to work extra to impress women. If you were a victim of the PUA "game" scheme you may suddenly find yourself reverting back to your introverted reserved self when you go out - choosing to relax and enjoy a drink in solititude rather than work on your "game" by chatting up women and strangers.
I can tell you, re-directing and changing your habits towards fufilling your vision, completely independent of women (and I mean completely) is one of the most freeing, eye opening, and peaceful things a man can do. you day to day activies will not be frought with anxiety / work / stress from trying to acheive things or do things for women, but will be replaced with a peaceful calm and no expectations to the future, as you will be intrisincally motivated versus extrinsically motivated. you will know you've finally acheived inner peace when there are no expectations and you are fine with it - when it's been a few years since your journey and you suddenly think "huh, I havn't been on a date in 3 years and I simply don't care"
The one thing you will miss is human touch, but I can tell you from a cost/benefit standpoint that the benefits far outweight the costs.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
I call it "leaving the plantation". This is the biggest fear of women and corporations. This is why "the great resignation" is all over the news. Why do we have a national shortage of teachers, drivers, tradesmen, pilots, health care workers, etc? Why are fewer men going to college? Why are there fewer marriages? Why are there fewer children being born? Why are so many US/UK/AU/CA/NZ men leaving permanently?
Next you gotta throw in the boomers retiring, supply chain woes, shortages, rising interest rates, inflation, global food shortages from war in Ukraine, climate change disasters, the upcoming wildfire season, upcoming electricity shortages, and you get a very bleak picture and have to ask yourself "is it worth it?".
NotaBene 1y ago
All that "opting out" has been going on for decades too.
Men are just realized these things do not benefit them over the long run. The really surprising thing is it took so long. Men are long-suffering and more "traditional" in that we will do what we feel is our duty - to a point. After that we will simply vanish, because leaving the system is the best option.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Yeah but we didn't realize it would get this extreme. It was noted in the 70s by Esther Vilar in "The Manipulated Male" how good women had it and how they were shooting themselves in the feet by doing away with traditional marriage.... but to completely alienate the opposite sex to the point of us walking away and not reproducing or engaging with them wasn't even thought of.
NotaBene 1y ago
Yep I read that, she did kinda call that a long time ago.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Yeah and I do believe she was the most hated feminist ever.
NotaBene 1y ago
Yes she might get along with Dr Helen Smith :)
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I_respect_females 1y ago
I understand where you're coming from but a man's nature is self improvement and fucking women, cavemen who were knocking women out and raping them still self improved for themselves inventing fire, weapons etc for survival, being a bum for the rest of your life might not be as satisfying as you think and definitely a waste of your time on this earth, man must challenge himself continuously to be fulfilled and that has nothing to do with women
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onaj_lik_s_mackama 1y ago
bro just get some bitches
benzino 1y ago
I think you should do whatever the fuck you want to do and stop announcing that you will be MGTOW for the rest of your life, because nobody really cares