So I bought my mom a gift that my brother wanted to chip in on, 50/50, in addition to dinner which we’d split.
I hadn’t thought about the math because I am always busy doing other shit, but I bought the gift about a week ago. As soon as we got done with dinner my brother starts throwing math at me, after I was pretty buzzed. I said, “wouldn’t it be this way ___” and he was arguing. I tried to stop talking because u/MattyAnon says not to argue with retards, but my brother’s wife was all “WE SHOULD HAVE NEVER AGREED TO THIS THEN”. Then I said, “I’ve had some drinks so I have to think about it” and my brother took this to mean that I was accusing him of stealing or something. He then said, “you should be able to figure it out, you’re the one that graduated”, both implying that I’m dumb and also him trying to grab some dignity because evidently he feels like a failure for dropped out of high school like ten years ago. I’ve never shamed him for not graduating.
All this time, his wife was saying, “We shouldn’t have agreed to it!!!”
Then he started bitching about gas and I mentioned that my house is in the same direction (they literally had to pass my street to get home and we live 1 mile away anyway even if they had to go out of their way. Not to mention, I was going to offer to pay for gas since I know they’re anal about this which I found out last time we had a big argument). The reason I don’t drive to places when we go out is because I don’t like to drink and drive and his wife doesn’t drink much and is always the designated driver anyway. My brother said, “it’s not about direction” and his wife said, “it is the same direction”. Then he starts saying, “Yeah it’s always the same direction, the same direction my life has always been.” I don’t know what kind of Hucklberry Finn shit he was talking about here but I just said we’ll talk about it later. He then kept saying, “No, we’re square. We’re square.” In a bitchy attitude.
I got out of the car at a red light and said, “I’m taking an Uber home since you guys want to bitch about 20 cents.”
I took an Uber home. I later found out from my mom (who I wasn’t going to involve but my brother did) that they were mad about the drive to the restaurant, but I don’t see the issue since they had to go there anyway, and I drove 108 miles round trip to get the gift I got that we were splitting. The restaurant is a 26 mile round trip.
Anyway, since he wants to act like a bitch and say, “we’re square.” Over and over, I’m planning on not paying him.
I’m not nearly as upset about this as previous arguments that we’ve had, but I’m honestly pretty annoyed with people in general at this point. I constantly try to better myself and even learn dynamics about how to avoid arguments without being a bitch while also not escalating, but it seems like people expect me to be a bitch and just agree to everything.
Thoughts?
STAYShredded 1y ago
Ahaha need to jump my my path lad, once I started making good coin I told people I don’t believe in presents any more lol… works a treat
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STAYShredded 1y ago
Yea good man, made a pretty big difference ngl. Went through a period where I was sleeping with a new chick every time I went out. Got busy with work for a bit and a little to comfortable with one of my plates and that put things on hold for the last month. But just last night I told her we need a break so hopefully this will help kick start things again. I’m way happier when I’m able to sleep around than with one girl tbh
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mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Pay him what you think is right, and email him the maths. Play fair, even with these dumbasses.
There's only so much you can do when people are being dumb as fuck.
People like this: don't enter into any agreements with them in future. Don't share cars with them. Don't stay with them or have them stay with you. Make sure you can walk away happily from any and all dealings with them.
All you can do is stay calm, present your case, and try to stop them going mental.
And try to find better people.. there's not much you can do about family.
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mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Ignore it.
Good, don't drink and drive: it ruins lives.
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whytehorse2021 1y ago
Don't drink around family. It never ends well.
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whytehorse2021 1y ago
Correction: Familiarity breeds contempt. Hence the cheeky wife.
Guyandtheroadtovictory 1y ago
Seems as passive aggressive behavior from brothers side. As p/a is womens trait, because passive comes from not expressing anger covertly due to fear or whatever - my 10 cents that his gf is affecting it badly and your brother took the bait.
Brothers should be special bond. Tate brothers and their example is perfect for that.
Family issues.. better use uber or smth because when its money thing, it can get nasty - as your example. 50/50 as well - better to do things seperately as to learn from experience that this is what it is. Most importantly - get your brothers bond back, if he do not understand, you should. Slap him, get a vodka together and talk things through, get shared hobby or something, it does not meant to be like that - its your blood brother.
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