Been seeing this girl for well over a month now. There was some holiday inbetween there, so we haven't seen eachother consistently all this time. We happen to both be working in the same company. Yes, i know, "don't shit where you eat", but thing is i have already agreed to work in another company, so i will only be working here until summer. Also, we don't work in the same department and we mostly just see eachother during lunch. Because of that i was willing to take the risk when we matched on tinder. We had three dates that went really well, we kissed and madeout and i felt like she showed a lot of green flags. After a holiday break, i invite her over for some food and a movie. She agrees, and after cuddling a bit during the film we start fooling around. The weird part is that she stopped me when i reached for the 'promised land', and told me that she "doesn't think this is such a good idea". I'm confused and ask her about it and she says "because of work, you know". Why would it take her this long to realise that this wasn't a good idea? She also mentioned the fact that i was only there until summer (will move to another city for a little while), and that maybe it would have been different if i was staying, which also makes NO sense to me, because why would that stop us from at least fucking right now? She then pulls the "maybe it's best if we just stay friends".
The dumb part is that we still kept going a bit, and fooled around, and she seemed quite into it, and i thought maybe it was just LMR from her side, but eventually i gave up and had to go, blue balls and all. I figured there wasn't anything to pursue here anymore. The next day, she texts me after work and asks me to come over to watch a movie. Right.. So, if she just wanted to be 'friends' why would she do that then? In my head i'm thinking "Okay, so she probably regrets not going all the way yesterday and now she wants to do it". I go over, and she seems a lot more "firm" than last night. There are lit candles on the table too. We start cuddling and fooling around a lot faster this time, and i'm thinking 'this is it'. Then she fucking stops again when i'm about to pull off her panties. We're literally almost naked, grinding, and she decides to not go all the way, when we're THIS close? Why? I finger her to orgasm and she jerks me off, and that's it. Pretty pathetic, i know. The really confusing part is how INTO ME she seems. She gives me these long stares and smiles, she caresses my body, seems to genuinely enjoy my company. So why is she holding back?
I decide to cut down a bit on contacting her after this, for obvious reasons. At one occasion, she sends me a snapchat photo that she got a phonenumber from some guy who was hitting on her at a café. I act unphased by it, and just kinda "haha, a note, that's charming", and she replies "yeah it's kinda romantic, could definitely end up sending him a text". This is a shit-test from her, right? I can't tell if she wants me to get jealous and get a reaction from me, or if she's just genuinely trying to rub it in my face that she just wants us to be "friends"? I have been seeing a few other girls during this period, but there is something about this girl that i can't really shake off. Well, one part is that she got the greatest pair of tits i have ever seen, but also just that i don't think i've ever chased a girl that's been so confusing. Because of my work situation it is very likely there won't be anything serious between us, but damn i just want to go all the way with her. Should i make one more attempt next week (I'm going on a weekend-trip tomorrow) or am i just kicking myself for wasting time on her? Thoughts?
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mattyanon Admin 1y ago
attention
attention, LMR, trying to get commitment
yes
she's half attracted.
she's enjoying playing you.
Don't put up with this shit, have some self respect.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
I don't even need to read the whole post to tell you there's an Iron Rule of Tomassi for that and it has to do with women making you wait for sex.
SheLarror1234 1y ago
Shes really friend zoning you. Cut off IMMEDIATELY.
Well to be precise shes betacuking you. Learn more about female nature. Blackpill and knowledge about related subjects then come back here asking more questions. For her its over
financehardo420 1y ago
forget where in the sidebar but any girl that makes you wait for sex = not worth the wait. next.
Scorpion69_ 1y ago
Basically ur SMV wasnt enough and u probably didnt escalate kino and comfort enough. Didnt read tho
braucifarian 1y ago
"This is a shit-test from her, right? "
100% shit-test. Basically she is half-decided on you. She likes the fun and games but wants to preserve her N count but also likes being chased. Since you showed signs of losing interest she had to step it up a notch by letting you know she can fuck another guy at whim if she so wants so you better keep up that chase.
As an adult, I would ask her why she is sending you this as clearly you are more than just friends even if not in an explicit committed relationship. Put her on the spot for why she is engaging in these actions that don't make sense logically but only make sense in her make believe kingdom female brain. And then cut off all communication.
Seriously ask yourself would you ever want a future wife that behaved this way to you this early on in your relationship? Your life would be a living hell. Move along.
redhawkes 2 1y ago
Yea, applying logic with women works af, especially overt game and explaining her nature. She's totally gonna tell you what she's doing.
gtfo
HopelessRomantic 1y ago
"told me that she "doesn't think this is such a good idea". I'm confused and ask her about it and she says "because of work, you know". Why would it take her this long to realise that this wasn't a good idea?"
"She then pulls the "maybe it's best if we just stay friends"."
"The next day, she texts me after work and asks me to come over to watch a movie"
"yeah it's kinda romantic, could definitely end up sending him a text".
" I have been seeing a few other girls during this period, but there is something about this girl that i can't really shake off."
Men and women are never meant to be friends. You have work acquaintances etc, or friendly relations with women in general - but overall men and women who are intimate or semi intimate in your case are never to be friends. She's playing you and you're being put in her frame. I wouldn't even bother texting her back - I would personally just move on. Be friendly at work for obvious reasons but keep your conversations short, say hello but if the conversation keeps going just say you have to get back to work or someones waiting for you for something.