We are exclusive now and i figured i should show scraps of affection. To make things clear I live in France and there is a different "love language". Americans say I love you, I miss you.
But French is more geared for romance, so there are a lot more phrases to express affection at the different levels. Anyways, this girl told me that she loved me a few months ago, i didnt say anything back. She told me she missed me, didnt reciprocate.
But recently we have gone exclusive, so i figured i have to give some scraps. In french she told me she liked me, (in a needy way over text). I took it as a comfort test. I told her "I like you too" but in french. She seemed so surprised i finally reciprocated, but i figured it was "i like you" and not love, and recently we are exclusive so im trying to show a liiitttlle bit more investment to feed her feelz. I also think cmon, i chose this girl over a bunch of others, we are exclusive, for me to not say i like her is weird and childish and almost in a sense playing some game that can trigger an ego battle. She wasnt asking if i loved her, to which i have the right to tell her not yet.
Just wondering, if its ok. Ive done the cocky approach with her, the non-reciprocal approach to her declarations of love, and i figured i can give her a scrap here. But the redpill part of me believes that i gave her validation and her pussy is dryer than a sponge in the sun.
Is it ok to reciprocate a little bit? She has given me almost 10-15 declarations of love: i love you, i miss you, i like you, im crazy about you, hearts, emojicons, love memes etc. This was my first one back, and i figured it was pretty tame and not simpy. Because its the first time i say it, she got excited because she knows i dont throw it out loosely, so i think theres power in that as well?

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coolsocks00 1 4y ago
Do something about this. Otherwise the break will hurt more than it has to. You havent even fucked this girl and you keep talking about her on this forum. Find other girls.
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Axlerod9999 4y ago
Life is very simple. You are average. Be above average. You are poor. Get money. You can beg. Its better than no money. Or can work at some shit job. Jokes aside. Always look at things like a dog. Black and white. This or that. Nothing is nuanced.
coolsocks00 1 4y ago
Yes you're fine. There is indeed power in emotional language, and that power is lost if overused, which is another reason to use it sparingly.
As long as you keep up what's called passive dread in your relationship you can use language to create emotional spikes quite often. A good relationship is contingent on your frame, so dont let her words, or her reception of yours, affect it.
mattyanon Admin 4y ago
it is
whytehorse2021 4y ago
Yes. Successful LTRs require you to meet the beta side of hypergamy(protection, provisioning, parental investment). Guys who go 100% alpha lose women regularly.