Hey guys so i have been spinning this plate for a few months and everything is polarized. She submits to me in and out the bedroom.
Yesterday when we were having sex, we were really into it, she was on top grinding hard and we were sort of breathing into each others ears and moaning. I know they love that shit.
I spanked her as she was grinding and it got more intense, spanked her again a few seconds after and it got more intense again.
Then after a few more seconds i spanked her harder, a nice solid one. And she screamed "No!" which sort of killed my mood, because we were having rough sex. It sort of made me feel rejected as a dominant, if that makes sense, and the whole bdsm dynamic is improtant to me. I know for sure some girls love hard spanks and ive spanked girls harder and they loved it.
I know this sounds petty but i am sort of thinking about soft nexting. From past experience usually when a girl doesnt let you ravage her fully, her attraction is dropping because this is "alpha" sex. Am i being close minded here or maybe i just genuinely crossed the pain threshold she liked.
Or am i a dumbass and just spanked too hard, and girls have different limits.
PSYCHOKILLA 2y ago
you fucking idiot
redguy91 2y ago
I do the same thing with my plates. From my experience see what they do, not what they say. If she is screaming NO but clearly very into it, then that is part of the roleplay. The issue here is you are into rough sex but did not specify safe words. Safe words will keep you safe from rape accusations. Most of my rough sex plates will scream NO as part of the act, but they can actually stop the rough play using safe words.
STAYShredded 2y ago
Yes and when they pretend to resist you physically is pretty hot too... Obviously all consenting!
NotGoodWithUsernames 2y ago
You are overthinking it, it just hurt her.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Have a safe word like pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis. If she says that then stop.
Growing 2y ago
Will she even remember? Lol
pfeilmacher 2y ago
If she's not the type of girl who'll let you do anything (the type I prefer), then just tell her that "No" is not the right word to use when she doesn't like something and that you don't expect to hear that word out of her mouth again in that context.
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
Well, it's not like she has to submit to EVERYTHING.
And the way she screamed no may not be the hard no you are interpreting it as.
You're overreacting. She's allowed to say no.
Yes
STAYShredded 2y ago
I would have been so turned off by this so I don't blame you for asking the question... To be fair im a bit of a dick and would have told her that straight away when she said no. 'that is so unattractive when you tell me what to do' or something along those lines...
Not only is this a form of 'negging' but also training her to the way you want [2 for 1 how good]. And if this dosnt work on her, she is probably a 'strong independent woman' (lol) and I doubt you want this ahah!
MoreAlfa 2y ago
One a scale of 1 to 10, this is a 1.