From a career/age/money/maturity standpoint. My LTR and I are the same age (27), but after getting a bit curious online I found out she has a habit of going for older men - 2 of her previous partners were a lot older than her (between 35 and 45) age gap difference and have good careers.
One is a head chef, and the other is a creative director for a design agency. I am in the design field so I’m in the exact same profession as one of them, yet much further behind as I'm still finding my feet in my career. He also has exactly the same hobbies as me in terms of music taste and art/design.
I’m still early on in my career and have had a few failed job opportunities I didn’t get accepted for, so I’m feeling a bit inadequate and deflated and starting to worry she could be an alpha widow. She also doesn’t show much of an interest in what I do work-wise, which is starting to make sense now as it’s exactly what her ex did.
Am I thinking irrationally?
PaidThaCost 2y ago
Don't see yourself where you are now, see yourself where you could be in 5/10 years if you hustle hard. If you make the most of your career, women will not be a problem. Any woman that acts up or leaves you because of your status is not worth having around.
The key is what you said - "you are feeling inadequate/deflated". It is all you. If you let her notice that you feel this way, she will eventually agree with you and it will put her off. You have something her exes don't have - youth.
bjjneck 2y ago
Yes and no. Your younger so you have time to grow and that's probably what she is banking on. However If you're considering a serious relationship I urge you to consider reading the rational male.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
If it bothered her that much then why is she with you? You probably are thinking irrationally.
pfeilmacher 2y ago
Stop comparing yourself to others. She's already done that and you're the one banging her. Don't do her work for her.
Guyandtheroadtovictory 2y ago
Overthink your work, side hustles not some girls past. Its her turn in your life - enjoy the feeling and work harder/smarter because now you have a girl which you can compare to your SMV. ROI is most important in this age, as I am in your age range as well. Dig hard till everything buss - time flies as crazy and we have only one life to enjoy those cherries on cake.