I've recently started dating someone. Although I don't know exactly how much she makes, by my estimations I bring in roughly 10x more than her. Now I don't mind paying for dates and trips, but I just don't want to be taken advantage of, which I've got a history of under the pretext that if we'll be together forever, why does it matter? I've fallen or that once, never again.

So I'm asking you – how do I pay for stuff (which I'm happy to do) without being taken advantage of. What are signs to look for? For example, sometimes she offers to pay, and some other times even does so while I'm not paying attention. But longer-term, how do I not slip into a place where I pay for everything and then if I don't, then I'd be labelled as cheap?