This is gonna be a long one. I'm sure some of y'all, being TRP-aware, have thought about one point or the other at some point in time.
The black pill is the belief that attraction and relationships happen simply on the merits of your physical and genetic makeup. Meaning if you're short, fat, or ugly, you stand no chance.
Although rigid and extreme in its nature, it's manifested in the day-to-day interactions and boy does it make me feel mad. TRP takes my anger even further. Realising that men have a much stronger libido and sexual drive than women meaning that they are mere likely to chase and have lower standards of women means that average looking women are able to sleep x19 more than an average Joe ever will. They are also more likely to be the center of attention, simply on the merits of being women.
What I just said don't sound like very healthy thoughts, and I try my best to not think about them and embrace them and move on, but boy oh boy does it make me mad every now and then.
I know I'm sounding borderline incel at this point, but really I have no problem with women. My problem is that I can't bring myself to live with these standards and I wholeheartedly feel triggered when I'm existing in the shadow of these concepts. So the question is: besides working on yourself, how can you get out of this loop? How do you come in terms that people are such materialistic cunts who only care about the way you look?
A bit of ranting
I feel especially triggered because I've been on both sides of the story. I was fat my entire life. 3 years ago I lost 15kgs(to 33lbs), it was the same year I lost my virginity and experienced female attention. Not only that, people in general treated me better, just because I looked healthier... I was still the same douchebag from the inside.
The pandemic came, I put on some weight 5 kg (10lbs), then I started lifting and put on more 10lbs, and I'm kinda where I started (only more muscular). And coming out of the pandemic with the midsnet of having an average weight, I see how people are treating me differently (in a bad way). They straight up disrespect, ignore and belittle me, sometimes they don't even take me seriously, even though I'm right. Ultimately, I don't give a fuck but when these things happen again and again, it makes one mad af you know?
MonkMode 5y ago
You won't like this, but you sound weak. Yes looks matter, but I have seen fat, ugly, short game and land successful relationships with georgeous women.
Lifting will make you physically strong, which women like to feel overpowered. If your mind is weak though, you won't last with the woman. Maybe catch her in a horny moment and she gone.
As for hating "the game" or women's nature. This is your inexperienced women mindset. Go fuck a prude and you will welcome whores.
You are borderline a virgin looking for someone to love you for you, the weak minded, fat you. How can someone love you if you don't even love yourself?
Women ovulate once per month. Their chemicals drive through the roof and need released, sexually. If they don't have a steady man, that means they will potentially fuck someone new once per month, or 12 new guys per year. Once they hit college, between 18-22 that's 48 men. Just get this in their head that whores will be whores.
Read Married Man's Sex Life Primer. The guy does land a virgin but he asks her how often she thinks about sex. You want a sex less bitch to run your life, once per month. You want a whore to dominate, all the time.
Focus on you, lift, read, write. Start approaching everyone to get your confidence up. Get some manly friends to call you gay or a fag. Grow a pair of fucking balls Bro.
cuztrpp 5y ago
Hey man, first of all, thanks a lot for the thoughtful comment. I really appreciate everything you wrote.
I am not weak. I am mad as fucking fuckitty fuck. I am angry because I am not getting pussy. Since the pandemic came, I haven't dated or had sex with one single girl, ever, and the ones that I did date eventually rejected me and moved on. My game is rusty, sure, but I am pissed to the MAX and I get angrier every day for other reasons.
Please know that girls are only part of the problem. The other problem is how people treat me. I used to command respect just by my presence. I used to be heard and looked up to when I speak, I am not shitting you. I used to be valued and respected in my social circles. Now I feel like I don't even fucking exist, at all. You won't get what I am saying unless you experience it yourself. It's painful. Going back to the real world with some fats accumulated is a completely different experience.
You are right. I might sound like I want a girl to love me for the fat me, but in reality, I am happy with the way I currently am, (or at least I was). Eating and working out have left me feeling awesome, I never felt better in my life. But then society tells me that I don't look decent enough to be respected, and I am angry...
I am working on myself every single fucking day, grinding between a master's, an internship, and some hobbies, especially the gym. Trust me, that part is figured out, and ultimately, I don't give a fuck about other people, and I am left with my anger and thoughts to boil my blood... alone.
MonkMode 5y ago
Are you comfortable alone?
cuztrpp 5y ago
Yes. I have been alone for a while now and got used to it.
nowiambecomechad1 5y ago
I can relate to this a lot. I changed from a cuck career to a solid traditonal career overnight and I saw the step change in how everybody treated me, especially women. Nonetheless, my total absence of any alpha male characteristics and years of ingrained betaism put me firmly in the no fuck camp. Women would be interested in me, but then as they talked to me and saw how much of a thirsty beta I was, immediately lost all interest.
That said, I've got a story you'll like. Years later I came to Red Pill, found the right formula with online dating and had a bit of a rampage. I was plating extremely well and going to the gym lots and taking dating more seriously than my degree. I had a true abundance mentality and had a streak of about 4 or 5 dates in a row where I was fucking on the first date everytime. I had this big alpha, cocky funny persona and I was in really good physical shape, on top of the world.
Except... I wasn't. One of the girls took a photo of me in bed where I smirked at the camera (like I belonged in Uncle Vasya's under-appreciated smirking guide) and the first thing I realised when she showed me was that I was skinny as fuck! As in really skinny as fuck! Wtf had I been doing in the gym, I thought to myself. Then I thought back and realised I'd probably lost a bit of gym focus, but had completely maintained the cocky alpha personality. These girls had bought it, every one of them, no chad bod, just chad mentality. Ironic, considering my username.
TLDR: success with women is more about mentality than you think, don't forget to smirk.
cuztrpp 5y ago
Listen man, when I was 75kg with 15-18% bf, I used to plate girls and sleep with many from the university, night clubs, hell even cold approaches. Unlike you, I kissed on the first date and fucked on the second or third. Tinder dates were first meeting fucks. I was there, believe me, and I loved every single moment of it.
The pandemic came, and I gained weight. Then I started working out, and I gained more weight. All of the above is gone and more.
I am fine staying with no pussy for elongated period of time. I am not fine when people don't listen or consider my perspective/point. I fucking hate when someone talks down on me from the get-go, and I fucking hate being disrespected. All of this because I am fat? I never EVER experienced this when I was skinny. When this happens, it is an instant trigger and I usually just coldly pull from the interaction.
This one particular thought MAKES MY BLOOD BOIL. You probably won't be able to relate unless you've been here already. Trust me, it makes me mad as fuck.
I never hated the way I look. As a matter of fact, I think I look quite fucking sexy. But then society treats you like a fucking rug, and here I am dieting and trying to lose weight, although my initial plan was to bulk until I hit some PRs...
nowiambecomechad1 5y ago
People always have been and always will be superficial. You just didn't notice it before. I always notice people listen to me more at work after I get a haircut, especially if I waited too long to get it.
whytehorse2021 5y ago
Black pill is nihilism. It's great because it absolves you of all responsibility but it sucks because you have no agency. I, for one, do have agency and take responsibility for the things I can do to make my life suck less. The other day I was walking my kid to school and after the cross-walker said "have a nice day" I responded "Thank you, I love you" and she giggled. You just have to laugh at the whole clown world created by the gynocentric social order. As it breaks down and becomes more and more dysfunctional, have a laugh. Do bold things. You can't control other people but you can control yourself. By getting upset you are letting other people affect your emotions.