Hey, so I got 0 experience with women and reading redpill has helped me understand the rules of the game a bit more. I've been approaching a lot of women but I never seem to get anywhere. I thought I was a good-looking guy even though I'm a bit skinny but it seems like no girl will even touch me. I met this one girl I clicked with, I even got her to eat lunch with me, I closed with the number and after texting her she just stopped responding. All my other approaches are dead-end, dryass conversations. I'm just a dude who wants to cuddle and fuck, isn't that what everybody wants? Why are they making this so difficult or acting like they are better than everyone?
How do you guys go from approaching a girl to fucking her? What might I be doing wrong?
Escapethecity 2y ago
Read the side bar, hit the gym, do the research, become a Chad, slay. But seriously don't ask any more questions until you have read the whole sidebar.
unplugged69 2y ago
Sounds like you haven't read the sidebar since all the answers are there. Here is a quick summary:
Improve your SMV, basically your looks, fitness and style. Lift heavy weights and out on muscle, all women respond well to this, start with an east 5x5 workout and build up from there.
Learn about shit tests, teasing, polarizing, hot and cold, making her qualify herself to you, etc. This part of the game is just as important as looks. It's often not what you say but how you say it so work on your body language and delivery.
Begin approaching girls, have flirty chats, get their number and be out in 5 minutes. It will take about 6 months to improve and this might be the hardest step to get over for noobs. Focus on just talking to girls your interested in and don't expect numbers, dates, etc. This part is about learning the approach, so if you get a number a date a kiss or a fuck then it's a bonus but not the main mission.
Let's assume you're getting numbers, now what? You text for logistics, basically time and place for the date and very little else. It's hard to build attraction over text and easy to fuck up so don't do it unless your text game is very tight.
Date night: Have the whole date planned out but don't tell her much, just when and where to meet. Keep it mysterious. You want to have 3 venues to hit, this makes it seem like more time has passed and she's "known you forever".
Remeber to NEVER go on dinner dates or movies or shit like that. Go for coffee, or cocktails, sit next to her not across.
During the date you need to kino/touch as soon as possible, start with back, shoulders, hands. Hold eye contact until she looks away. You need to try to kiss her early, if you want until the end of the night you will fail. If she gives you the cheek then act all normal like you've seen it all before and try again in 30 minutes, now you have a higher success chance!
While talking you need to polarize the conversation, if she says she's from California say "I hate California" or if she's a vegan say "it's not going to work out between us, I can never date a vegan". Say it with a grin like you are joking but don't confirm it, keep her guessing. Tease her like you would tease a bratty little sister, get her to qualify herself to you. Give her some compliance tests, start small and build up.
If you kiss, make it short, a few seconds and pull away. Don't do long makeout session as that difuses sexual tension.
Once you've been to your 3 bars or whatever invite her back to your place for drinks, if she asks what you're doing give her plausible deniability so she doesn't feel like a slut. Say "have some drinks, chill on the sofa, maybe watch a movie".
Once you're at home be chill again, remember hot and cold,, let her relax.After 10-15 minutes kiss her and escalate, if she tells you to back off act cool and not upset, try again later and you'll have better success. LMR is a whole subject so read up on it if you fail here.
YourOwnDisaster 2y ago
Came here to give the sidebar answer, but happy to see it's already been said. I'll stfu and eat my popcorn in the corner jerking off to Rollo.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
I'm bi and I don't even jerk off to Rollo. Now that Jordan Peterson guy...
MonkMode 2y ago
Just posted a field report.