From age 14 or so i've always been very good with women, i had good frame, good game and i would say women always saw me as an asshole. They always would fuck around with me, sex, blow job etc. From age 14 to 22 i would rate myself maybe 6/10. My best friend was 100% an 8/10. Women always wanted to date him but fuck me but yet still try to make me want relationship with them. I have had sex with atleast 7 girls who wanted him to DATE him but never got him so they settled for less, me. He never wanted them cause they fucked me before him, He still fucked 2 of them for the fun off it. Anyway what i'm saying is i had good game. Yes i had few relationships from 2011 until 2015. I broke all beside one off. She did because i left her 250 miles away from our city for not listening to me when she almost got r**ed by 3 guys. She broke it off but wanted me again few days later we where FWB for 1 year after that.
Anyway now, 6 years in my current relationship ive lost everything. Our sex at first was good, i got blow jobs randomly, sex wherever, she masterbated me everywhere. Now ooof. She doesn't have to work as hard as she did anymore so she stopped this we have sex maybe 2 times per week. I still lift weights, i still take more care of myself. But what ive lost is confidence, frame and masculinity. I used to talk to girls, boys no problem now all i do is work, gym and home.
How can i slowly go back to old me? She sometimes says i'm a male chauvinist, which i find funny. Even her mom has said it. I need my confidence back, i mostly now don't speak to some people because still inside of me is this huge pervert, i make sexual jokes, sexual statements and i'm just a big horny shimp. But i've always talked like that but being this old has probably something to do with it.
RealC0ck 2y ago
Posted to early forgor to fix error,. I used to talk to girls and boys no problem and kept huge girl circle around me and few guys, but now i bately meet my guy friends.
unplugged69 2y ago
You may have had some bluepill game but it takes a lot more than that to deal with bitches, especially in an LTR. The problem is that LTRs are truly hardmode and bitches have a natural inclination to attempt to betafy you even more than you already are until you are a shell of a man. After that they lose attraction and the results are obvious, less sex, more fights, insults and disrespect, etc.
You've experienced all of this so you know how it is, and I have experienced this exact situation many times. This is why I am very reluctant now to agree to LTR, spinning plates is a lot better for your mental health.
What your relationship is missing is DREAD, you see even if you lift and your SVM is decent she can still act like a bitch because there's no dread. Look up 12 stages of dread and she will realise she can be replaced. Generally speaking your girl will be as bratty and insufferable as you let her get away with.
Personally I would plate her and start gaming other chicks, but start with dread first and try working on your frame because you need a rock solid frame for an LTR.
Pro-tip, next time she says some dumb feminist shit like "you are a male chauvinist" say "I love it when you talk dirty", then fuck her hard like it's the last time and leave. Don't cuddle, just leave and go to a bar with your mates and game some chicks. Basically start treating her like a plate, you are giving too much comfort right now and it needs to stop.
RealC0ck 2y ago
I probably had some blue pill back then, but not a lot since i had very good success.
I think what keeps her intrested in me is that i still have some game in me with her and from past girls that i accidentally see or meet that say hi to me makes her little jelous. ..
I think dread and me being more confident would 100% make difference.
https://theredarchive.com/archive/24224. This
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Same happened to me in my marriage. I decided to monkey branch and while I was getting fit and learning red pill my wife noticed and started fucking my brains out. So you just have to prepare to monkey branch. Practice red pill on your LTR while gaming other women. You'd be surprised what you're capable of when you have nothing to lose. You'd also be surprised how fast your woman does a 180 when she realizes you have options.
One more thing: since you're leaving her anyway, you might as well do all the nasty stuff you want to her in bed. I started pulling my wife's hair and sticking my finger in her ass and she loves it. Now she fucks like a porn star and is insatiable. I'm literally getting fucked in my sleep and wake up the next day and hear about it.
RealC0ck 2y ago
So you stayed married? I think because when i was young i had nothing to loose helped me a lot. I also had this IDGF attitude.
Right now i'm slight overweight, and need to loose it again, mostly cause gym closed and now ive got torn pec/strained. From benching.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Yep, still married. I remember at the time I was serious about losing weight and had a IDGAF attitude
YourOwnDisaster 2y ago
Everyone is using the closed gym as the reason they got fat. Did you know you can stop being a fatass by eating healthier and taking in less calories?? Buy a $100 set of dumbbells or use your own bodyweight to workout. I hate seeing excuses for people's failures. Torn pec? Go for a run, fatty.
Others have mentioned dread, that's what you're aiming for here.
RealC0ck 2y ago
I only gained 2 kg, got back to gym recently tore the pec doing 130kg which is roughly 70-75% of my 1 rep max.
Well yeah right now i'm 500 calories deficic and just doing squats and other leg stuff
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Yeah. I changed our relationship to where I can fuck other women if I want and now my wife keeps my balls so drained I hardly have energy for other women. Stealing my sex drive has become my wife's #1 priority.
RealC0ck 2y ago
Thats actually awesome! How did you talk her into that?
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Well one drunken night it slipped that I had been with other women. Then she let on that she suspected it. Then I said I was just fucking some hoe but didn't want it to affect our relationship so I kept it quiet. I said that she can divorce me and she said she's not like that. I told her she can sleep with other men and she said she's not like that. Anyway, I just go "play golf" or whatever and head to the red light district and fuck a hoe.
Growing 2y ago
Talking is mostly feminine. Do. When you talk after she does, remain aloof. When you talk, on your own, sexual innuendos that are very vague are great:
" pass me the bowl with the biggest bottom" "Slippery cream. The way I like it"
She gets it.
Musicgoon425 2y ago
Sounds like you got comfortable with just existing. Are you gaming your girlfriend? If not you need to start. Second m, you should always be social. Talk to and flirt with other women. Make her jealous.
Look bro I'm a pervert like very few have seen. No need to hide that. People love my honesty. Don't make excuses and stop being antisocial. You know what is wrong and you know how to fix it. So get to work..
[deleted]
RealC0ck 2y ago
Sound like you got comfortable with just existing.
This hit home;. I still got some game but not nearly enough. Mostly cause i feel my confidence has gone down and i'm not as witty and quick to make jokes back. Now i'm almost a doormat cause i'm too comfortable with life.