Here is about where I fuck it up. My phone game is pretty bad (I don’t have time to think about good responses and I make it boring).
Info: Her bio said she was looking for her Phil Dunphy. For those who don’t know, that’s a character on Modern Family, who is married to Claire. So I referred to this girl as Claire.
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YourOwnDisaster 2y ago
Every other guy asks what she's looking for. Ever see a girls inbox on a dating site? It's in the thousands. You started unique then let the idle drop. I'd have bantered a lil bit more and dropped a negg or two to draw her attention after that. "Shame you look like a lightweight, I just found an amazing bar and wouldn't wanna bring a stumbler through it'. If she has actual interest, she'd bite.
Once you get through a shit ton of openers, follow ups and seals, you'll see what works for you. I literally use almost the same lines on everyone from start to close because it's the best success rate for me.
Btw, Bumble is terrible. Try Tinder or Hinge.
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YourOwnDisaster 2y ago
Don't ask what they're there for period. You can gather her personality from her profile for the most part. Seems playful? throw one more in just to be annoying, regardless of outcome; "That was smooth.". "Right? I've been saving it for you. Clairely".... "You know you're cute and all, but I doubt you're any good at xyz. She'll probably respond; "But I'm so good at xyz" or may favorite; "Guess you'll just have to find out"....Then you ask for the number. "Looking forward to it, what's your number? I've got first drink saying I'm right". Lead them there.
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YourOwnDisaster 2y ago
Edited above.
Text her in a short while. "Hey Name, it's ____ from Bumble! Up to anything fun tonight? (This is logistics. Helps remember who it is and where you started talking to them if you need that info later).
She responds. "Nice! So what's your schedule like this coming week?'
She makes more mouth noise. "Thursday is perfect. I know a perfect spot that has great drinks. Ever been to xyz?".
Bla bla bla. "Oh wow, You haven't? Wear something cute and meet me there at 8!"
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YourOwnDisaster 2y ago
Personal example, just to drive the idea.
https://imgur.com/a/b8qonH4
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unplugged69 2y ago
You started out strong but you need to polarize the conversation more. She has 1000 chads in her inbox if she's a 6/10 so you really need to stand out.
Don't worry too much and keep trying, and never ask them basic shit like what they're looking for or what they do for work. Be the fun, cocky, funny guy that they all seek because their lives are boring as shit.
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unplugged69 2y ago
Well it's best not to dwell on salvaging shit with women since your chances are always better with a new chick.
However a good thing to do is unmatch and then if you match again later pretend you have no idea who she is.
I know a guy who makes a tinder account, blocks all women he doesn't like sometimes for hilarious reasons. Then when he's done with the account he deletes it and makes a new one, when he matches them again he acts like he has no idea who they are and they respond better because they see abundance.
The thing is I wouldn't recommend playing the online game too hard because you learn more about game through cold approach (both night game and day game) and you'll end up with better skills. Plus women get too much validation online and you're fighting for attention, whereas in real life you stand out immediately for having the courage to approach her and be confident she likes it.
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