I met a woman who’s more compatible with me than anybody I’ve ever met. She could be my best friend.
I made a thread about her recently about how she thinks it’s funny her friend cheats. Huge red flag so I’m going to view her as a plate from now on.
It’s just so depressing after a while though. I don’t want to spin plates for ever. I want real love but the closest woman i found turns out to be this way. How do you guys not get depressed as fuck through all this
SeasonedRP 2y ago
Don't think of a woman you date as your best friend. You still have a BP mindset.
MonkMode 2y ago
Well, you are missing the article on a woman will never love you the way you want to be loved. Love to a greater extent is having power over someone. If someone loves you, they worship you. If you love someone, you worship them. Mutual love doesn't really exist. The closest I have come is out of mutual respect in brotherhood (no homo).
If you are a high value man, she probably won't cheat. You can't judge her based on her friends.
But to answer your question regarding coping... You need validation. She isn't validating you. You have oneitis for her. In your position your best option is to work out (build self validation), read/study (self validation), explore new avenues (self validation), talk with bros (external validation), talk with random women (external validation).
The path to manhood you lose a lot of emotions. You grow numb to rejection and sometimes find joy in it. The lose of emotions is a curse and a blessing, you just need to flip your switch and find general joy in life period.
YourOwnDisaster 2y ago
The No Homo saved you there.
Hanscheezburger 2y ago
Good, you are starting to see women for what they are. Dont expect ANY of them to stay loyal. Let them be free to fuck around if they want, just make sure you are always the best option you can be and they'll lose more than they gain if they ever cheat
Intrepid_Place53900 2y ago
women will try to stick together , they'll try to rationalize it,etc. The hamster is stronger in some than others.
Remember though, listen to what a women say's, watch more what they do. That's more important here.
Like others have said here, she thinks it's funny, but would she also cheat? It doesn't mean she would. Is it a crappy attitude? Yes.
I'd remove some of my attention from her for sure.
Stop the pedestal crap. Always watch what they do, evaluate them.
It's what they can do for you, not what can I do for them. Remember that.
How do they treat you, what do they do for you? Are they submissive, do they want you to lead?
When you are in a LTR, you fall in love. You have to limit it, you have to keep resetting yourself. It doesn't stop. If you turn beta, she's gone.
Keep telling yourself that , over and over. If I go beta, she's gone.
MonkMode 2y ago
When you are in a LTR, you fall in love.... Turn beta....
And if you of high value, she becomes a raging bitch and you become unhappy and leave her. That's what brought me to TRP.
Intrepid_Place53900 2y ago
You have to keep the balance between beta and alpha
First though, you can't put her on the pedestal, you have to take care of yourself. Love yourself more, whatever you need to call it or do, to keep yourself first.
Of course, the woman factors in here too. I had a raging bitch also and she's gone. Could another guy have kept her in place? Maybe, but damn she wasn't worth the effort. Not even close.
mr_Tobbor 2y ago
As the strongest of Psychiatry Manuals' says: Between maried people, a lot of them get divorced but... The strange thing is not this one. But how it could be for the others to remain together. (English isn't my firts lunguage).
Intrepid_Place53900 2y ago
Many married people stick together , because they are afraid to split, can't afford to, or whatever.
some are actually happy. Why? what is the difference there? I equate it to balance. A man who's got some RP in him, but also a woman who gets it, she's RP a bit also. You can't have a crazy bitch and keep her sane = in line, no matter how RP you are in a LTR. Even if you could, the effort would not be worth it.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
I'd add that there is also a blue pill mindset about falling in love, finding true love, etc. I recommend marrying/LTRing your best friend. You can train away a lot of things you don't like about your wife; women are moldable like that. Only certain things are problematic: hoes, single mothers, personality disorders, alpha widows, etc. You'll have to decide if it's something that can be worked on or is going to be permanent. If she thinks it's funny to cheat on boyfriends I'd put her in the hoe category and find someone that takes life more seriously.
Growing 2y ago
Sidebar, go to men the topic on women in love, then men in love.
You have some more unplugging to do