I have an ltr that is transitioning to a dom and sub dynamic.
In real life she's extremely obedient and submissive and subconsciously I talk to her like a toddler sometimes.
In the bedroom it's practically and Dom and Sex slave dynamic. I practically hold all the power but I still try to balance it by making her feel secure
One thing I've noticed is that lately through texting she's been trying to relinquish power, usually through shit-tests or teasing. She even texted me that she was trying to bully me. I personally find it hard to take her seriously so I just respond with something like "that's adorable" or "thanks for the laugh you keep trying".
But I'm worried that she's starting to feel helpless/nervous or regrets giving too much power away and this is her desperate attempt at getting that power back? Do I need to give more comfort? I don't want her feeling completely helpless
whytehorse2021 2y ago
I think you're putting words/thoughts into her mouth. When a woman nags you it means you need to cum in her. Healthy relationships are always dom/sub. That's how women feel comfort and they get depressed if they don't get semen absorbed vaginally. I only have to comfort my wife about once a month and it's usually just sleeping together naked with lots of skin contact.
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Growing 2y ago
Either she is shit testing or there is another guy who she would like to bang.
She is testing both of you to see who is the most predominant alpha to her.
Hold frame, and if symptoms persist, withdraw your attention and affection till she behaves
Musicgoon425 2y ago
Stop fucking simping. Jesus man. She wants you to dominate her, not coddle her. Slap yourself for reverting back to a pussy. If you get soft she will dry the fuck up.
Anonytrp 2y ago
Keep doing what your are doing, don't change.
MonkMode 2y ago
I gave all my ex LTRs to much comfort. At this point I'm inclined to say don't feel guilty for being king with a pessant willing to serve you.
natural-order 2y ago
You're right, it's always better to be too alpha than too beta