Hi guys, I’m in a pretty unique situation and I’d like some advice.
So I’ve been doing a work trade program for the past 4 months thousands of miles away from home and this girl. Mostly I did this as a spiritual journey, to learn to love myself more because I had no choice but to be by myself. I’ve read a ton of spiritual books since, and have really put in the work.
Clearly this showed to this chick because she wasn’t interested in fucking anymore before I left, but as time went by she admitted to me over FaceTime that she has feelings for me, touched herself thinking about me and said she wants to do life with me.
Of course my old beta mindset started to take over and I think I have too much validation and started acting sort of feminine, saying things like I can’t wait to see you again cutie etc (you know how it goes).
Fast forward to last week she went to a music festival and has been super distant and odd since, no more nudes no more “good morning cutie” texts etc. So I decided to pull back and let her come to me and she hasn’t since. She doesn’t even seem excited for me to come back. My thoughts are that she met someone new at this festival or she became “empowered” because she mentioned the girl she went with is such a “powerful badass queen” like maybe she’s emulating her?
Anyways sorry for the long read, thoughts and advice would be appreciated
unplugged69 2y ago
"powerful badass queen", I died when I read that. Basically she met a slut, and that slut is teaching her the ways of the carousel and how to get chad thundercock to pump and dump her until she becomes damaged goods like her "friend" and is no longer able to pairbond.
You did the right thing withdrawing attention but don't expect her to come back. Sometimes they do but sometimes they don't which is why you're always working new chicks instead of wasting time keeping the ones you have or trying to get old ones to come back. You can't negotiate desire, they want you or they don't, so always spend time trying to get new chicks and that way it doesn't matter what any of them do. We call this abundance mentality and that's when you start making good decisions.
For example if you had abundance, like Jennifer Lawrence is waiting to suck your cock right now. Would you be wasting time texting this whore? fuck no dude . And tomorrow Alexandra dodario wants to so anal with you, so you don't have time to FaceTime this whore. Do you understand?
Bassyboi 2y ago
Thanks for your response man, I think you’re spot on, like she’s newly empowered by this bitch. Honestly pisses me off but I guess it’s female nature especially in this day and age where being a slut is encouraged by other chicks. Unfortunately I got my hopes and expectations up already so I’ll just have to deal with the burn if it’s not a thing anymore with her. Either way it’s a lesson learned, but damn the hot and cold nature of women really is astonishing. Men seem to be the only ones with the slightest integrity..
Bassyboi 2y ago
Just to add to my post, I just want to fuck her again when I’m back and want to know how to best facilitate that. I’ll also admit i have a bit of oneitis as she’s extremely hot and I got trapped in the fantasy of having her when I get back home.
YourOwnDisaster 2y ago
So hit her up when you get back. Leave her alone for the time being. In the meantime, fuck other girls.... seriously.
YourOwnDisaster 2y ago
Bassyboi 2y ago
Thanks for the response brother, I’m coming back home in 2 weeks and would never LDR, I know better. I just want to make sure I’m between her legs when I get back and that I can bring back some interest, it’s driving me crazy why she’s acting this way all of a sudden. I still have a lot of work to do I admit it. Also it’s logistically almost impossible for me to fuck other women in my situation, I work on a farm with no vehicle, I have fucked one girl a few times because she’s kind of ugly but really likes me and she has a car lol
YourOwnDisaster 2y ago
Of course it's driving you crazy. You have oneitis and are in a scarcity mindset. It's guaranteed that you'll fuck it up if you continue pursuing in this fashion and state of mind.
You're going to have to figure out a way to become more social. I'm sure there are buses and trains and ride share etc.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
There are 3.5 billion women on this planet. I can find you hundreds of hot ones that would "do life" with you and they aren't sluts that go to music festivals and hang out with "powerful badass kweens".