Anyone else battled with feeling like all the people are better than you?
Although I know on a rational level that some people are better at some things (which is totally normal and I'm ok with that), on deeper level I feel like they're just better full stop.
I'm not some chad or anything but I would say I'm doing good. Good job, decent shape (and working on it), maybe lacking in social skills.
I tried thinking about it and I came with 2 possible reasons:
- Either I feel I will be judged because I can't do what other people can(or have)
- I came up from a smaller town to a much bigger one. Naturally the competition (in everything) there wasn't so big, it's like everyone is high quality and being high quality doesn't mean anything anymore.
These are just 2 things that crossed my mind. Of course there might be more which is why I'm here, I want to hear other people's experiences and thoughts about this situation.
What do you think are some reasons for feeling like this? And how could I solve them?

whytehorse2021 4y ago
That's just the reality of being a young man nowadays. You have low SMV. Society views you as disposable. It's easy to internalize that and feel like a lesser man. The good news is it's all going to get better and better as you get experience and overcome challenges. Keep looking for ways to improve. Keep yourself at the forefront of your mind. Don't get pigeon-holed or deadlocked by what others say or do. Join an MMA gym to help your confidence.
BabyUareSoSexy 4y ago
I screwed up school until the age of 21. Worked a dead-end job for 2 years, started school at 23 again, will graduate when I'm around 27 years old. All of my friends have a good job, live alone and generally are ahead of me in any way. I used to compare myself to them, but now I give zero fucks. Stop comparing yourself to other people, set goals for yourself and smash them, that's the only way to get confident;
Musicgoon425 4y ago
Some people are taller than me. Some people are smaller than me. Some have big mouths, but state small and uncreative ideas. I'm better at English than math. My cousin is an electrical engineer. He makes electric vehicles. His wife is gorgeous and he lives in a fucking palace. 2days ago I found out his wife was a serious alcoholic. She has been in rehab 3 times and is bipolar.
Chances are that everyone has a weakness or insecurity. They just aren't showing that to you. They hide it.
There's no such thing as better. There's just different. Work on yourself. Don't beat yourself up.
YourOwnDisaster 4y ago
As a child, society tells you that you're unique, you're a winner, participation trophies for everyone! Coddled and protected from the actual state of affairs. Everyone has a voice on social media and as long as you follow the unwritten rules, you're just as relevant and important as everyone else. Don't make waves, keep the status quo. Take your meds, one day you'll go places kid.
Out and unto the world you go... Not exactly what you were expecting, but hey, I got this! ... nope... those participation awards just aren't coming in at the same clip and oh god, Why is this girl fucking that douche bag who doesn't know the script?? I'm so much better than him. I'm unique!
Everyone else will tell you that you're just as special, just as amazing, just as... whatever. Now, you're finding out the truth - you weren't prepared for life...at least in some senses. You weren't prepared for the cut-throat shit that the world has just lying in wait for those who are unprepared. You want to fix it? Great. What you feel is a bit of competition rearing down on your ass. Be better. Work fucking harder. One fucking step at a time.
KaliosX 4y ago
Dude, I always look at your replies. Solid shit.
YourOwnDisaster 4y ago
Thanks man, hopefully just a lil wisdom passed down from a man getting older
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WahmenLover 4y ago
Spend time on this forum and you'll start to feel far superior to plenty of guys here. Not because they're "blue pilled betas" but because they're overcompensating faggots who try to bully other people out of a highly skewed, childish sense of alphaness.