Hey TRP,
Long story short: woke up thanks to you guys and to all the material/book recommendations on the red pill. Figured out all my family, friends, etc. have been bullshitting me (especially my family, they play life by the rules of TRP, the rules of the world but educated me with religious bullshit/blue pill shit that only makes you a fucking loser idiot in life. What makes me most angry is some of them are powerful and have tons of money and still are fucking assholes trying to make me believe blue pill shit, others just ghosted me forever I assume for being one of the poorest, they just don't want to see me succeeding). I have so much rage for all the people, adding to this, I've suffered bullying since high school, have had 0 social life, etc. thanks to being a blue-pilled idiot. 0 success with women and add to this having a small penis (5" erect in my best days, some of them have even laughed in my fucking face. I'm aware this makes everything much more difficult in life). The only thing I would want is to do the worst horrible stuff you could imagine to collect revenge (won't specify with details because can be dangerous saying that), literally lost my fucking life, I'm 23, no career (didn't have money to pay for it and my family didn't support me, they have money and have been assholes to me all my life because I was an "undesired" child), self-taught programmer who barely has money to eat in a third world country (thanks to working remotely) who found a job thanks to luck, and every time I remember anything about my past the only shit I do is cry and cry like a pussy.
This is serious, can't really focus on my work or learning new things, or even on applying the 'social rules' (yes, I've read how to win friends and influence people, influence, the 48 laws, etc, so I know the theory but the strong hate I feel doesn't let me apply anything, I just would like to slowly fuck them 1 by 1, make them suffer just a little of everything I've suffered).
What would you advise? I know probably I can end up in jail or dead if I let my rage keep guiding my actions. Please tell me, if you were in my position, how would handle this to succeed like a Chad?
HOW WOULD CHAD HANDLE THIS?
Thanks
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
You need to accept the past and focus on yourself, not your family and whoever who has wronged you. Cut them off if they are so bad and start to improve your life drastically. You're not attractive in your current state so dont worry so much about women. That aspect of life is never gonna be harder for you than now, so it pays to be aware of that and have patience.
Are you excercising? Lift, do martial arts or even just home workouts and jogs/sprints outdoors if you cant afford gym memberships yet.
Go to therapy if/once you can afford it. Work on your education/skills to get better jobs. You need to get your life and mental state in order before you worry about details like your dick size.
jormigaso 2y ago
Good point of just ghost all of them. Will assume I just don't have family, I'm alone on this. What could be a viable roadmap?
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
Dont make a big deal out of ghosting family either. Just be assertive, dont expect stuff and be an adult basically. You shouldnt have to rely on others for anything.
Training is not something you just do for a set period of time. You want to start and keep doing it all your life, while making some adjustments to fit your lifestyle (but never cut it out). I would recommend joining BJJ or a good MMA gym if possible. Just like training; improving your game and your style is something you can start today, but making money and improving your health/lifestyle is much more important.
I think your roadmap is fine. Make it more specific as you go and add time measurements to the more detailed goals. Putting a deadline on your goals can help motivate you and bring some urgency to your life. At the same time dont KYS once u fail a deadline, make realistic but tough adjustments instead.
Stop focusing on your dick. It's not that small even, it's like 0.5 inch off the US average or something if i remember correctly. People have much bigger issues. If you keep comparing yourself to others you're gonna be miserable forever. It's fine.
Also stop focusing on becoming "Chad". Chad is just some guy we like to imagine that has the ultimate SMV, i.e. gifted with natural genetics, charisma, game and hunger for success. It's the super rare guys you can never match. But you cant feel bad about not matching that. It's not supposed to be attainable. If you are ever set back because of some Chad-like guy just watch and learn. Accept the diversity of nature. You can only become the best version of yourself, which is probably someone great.
jormigaso 2y ago
many thanks, brother, will do! and about Chad: to be honet it was my idol, I thought it was something reachable (without the genetics of course), I mean, I aim to become at least a 7-8 SMV guy who can fuck HB6-HB8 if I do well in life. Just a last question:
how do you incorporate training in a busy lifestyle? how CEOs (who are pretty busy) would do it?
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
Really successful people who also take care of themselves (not everyone do) are able and willing to delegate their work so that they can take time off for things they care about, and not just excercise but also their family/women, hobbies and time out with guy friends.
This is not realistic for someone when starting out their journey. Successful people sacrifice things to get what they want, i.e. they grind and spend time and invest money early to reap compounded benefits later.
You will need to spend some time and energy on yourself as well to make your lifestyle sustainable. Lots of people make the mistake of dieting with a calory deficit thats too large, then give up and eat trash, wasting all that previous hard effort for nothing. People save/invest too much and are not happy, then later give up and splurge on wasteful stuff to see if that will make them happier. My point is that there's a balance, and you need to check yourself often while setting and pursuing goals.
Your goal is very attainable, and the only thing holding you back is yourself. You're not on this journey alone.
jormigaso 2y ago
understood, will do everything I can to make it someday. Thanks a lot for your help brother.
redguy91 2y ago
Good roadmap. Except I would add meditation. You are using alot of energy on rage. Divert your energy into self improvement. The best and sweetest revenge you can get is to be successful. Also dick size is overrated, I know this for a fact because I myself have 4 or 5 inch dick but never had trouble. The vibe energy and confidence you exude is what makes women go crazy, not ur dick size.
jormigaso 2y ago
good point, does meditation really work? I always thought it was pure bullshit to make you waste time (I was thinking of meditation as something bluepill). And yeah, working on attaining the best of successes. Hope you're right about the dick if not I have a death sentence there
redguy91 2y ago
Yes meditation works. It seems you dont have good grasp of red pill concepts. Red pill isnt about rage or anger. Redpill is about indifference and being immovable. Which is what meditation helps you to ahieve that mental state. Too many people focus on the physical aspects of redpill
jormigaso 2y ago
that's a good point, I've read about stoicism as well but thought it was against the red pill. Will try to find a way to calm my mind and keep doing the work. Thank you so much.
kingofthecastle 2y ago
Turn that rage into productive action, they say that success is the best revenge. Your 23, so you got time to establish a new life for yourself as a RP man, find out your purpose and stick to it.
jormigaso 2y ago
working on it brother, thanks!
Anonytrp 2y ago
Stop being bitter. Grow up. You are responsible for your own destin. Keep growing skillset as a programmer and h1b your way in yo US if you can. You should be well off in that.
5 incj penis probabaly goodin a 3rd world country.
Diet and excercise, posture, looks max a bit.
Build your life. Women care most about status.
jormigaso 2y ago
trying to become the best I can and make bank, hope someday everything pays off. Since I don't have a college degree an H1b might be hard as fuck to achieve but nothing is impossible, will do like Elon Musk says: "work every waking hour", let's see how far I go. Thanks.
Anonytrp 2y ago
If you get good enough at valuable coding skillsets, doors open up whether you have degree or not. Just put self taught on your linked in.
Read 100 hours of teamblind
jormigaso 2y ago
working on it and networking as well, hope going through hell someday shows its reward.
Can you please send me a link? I googled but can't find a book/article with that name.
Anonytrp 2y ago
It's also called blind. It's on the app store
splifferoo 2y ago
Firstly, I recommend a therapist because there’s only so much that self help can do. I also recommend the book ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck’. Although the title may be misleading, the book is actually about what you as a person should be giving attention to and how to foster healthy thoughts by shifting your values. He brings up an example of a rockstar who got kicked out from his band, and used that rage to make his own band and ended up becoming famous. However, the band he got kicked from ended up twice as famous. So by his metric(being more famous than them), he was a failure. But to my standard, he’s still rich, right?
Realize that your metric and values are what determine your success. You still have a job. You may not have a caring family, so supplement that with good friends. There’s a lot I could say that the book explains about this in depth.
jormigaso 2y ago
thanks, will do the therapist once I can. Thanks for the book recommendation, will check it out. What are the standards according to TRP? I mean, what are Chad's standards? what must be my minimum standards? I don't follow this as a religion but it's the best way I've found to have somehow a good life.
splifferoo 2y ago
Also journal a lot more. Writing on TRP is a good start, but you need to do this more often. It seems like you are listing a lot of problems spilling out, and you need to know what the fire is starting from. Write, write, write it down!
jormigaso 2y ago
do you mean to write publicly?
splifferoo 2y ago
No, write to yourself. It’s not about hearing feedback from others that you need, but to get your own mind to think clearly and format them linearly.