I still struggle with taking control of the situation but this one was like pulling teeth. Literally miss personality over here wouldn’t give me much in terms of conversation during drinks but still was keen on my attempts to close. Typical GND and a HB6 maybe 7 on a good day.
Is this a normal thing for some? I admit I was drinking all day and that needs to stop. Was the attraction just not there? I feel as if I just can’t accept just a pretty face if I don’t connect with her at least on some level.
I had her give me a blowie until I was halfway decent and I went limp as soon as I tried again. It was frustrating.
I’m pretty discouraged as my last sexual encounter was wild and passionate that lasted a few weeks.
Appreciate the input or criticism fam.
CAPTAINSKINNYPENIS 2y ago
Your body was riddled with alcohol and you were trying to force it with a girl your heart wasn't in it with. No wonder you went soft mate
And then to end your post you indicate you had no problems getting it up for a girl it was wild and passionate with
Erections aren't robotic bro, they're organic. There is feeling and fire involved. If your hearts not in it don't be surprised if you go soft, especially if you're drunk.
orbilius 2y ago
It's normal in the sense that every guy who fucks random women has experienced it, yeah.
I'll offer two pieces of advice.
The first is mechanical - there are certain positions that (for me at least) it's easier to stay hard in without any stimulation. The trick is to start having sex in one of those positions. Because once you're fucking, you'll stay hard.
For me, I've had problems staying hard on really soft mattresses. I have no idea what that's about, but it's like, I've got the girl's legs up in the air and I'm kind of kneeling in a position where once I get the condom on, I'll plunge in and we'll be in missionary position. I've never had trouble on my own bed, but I have on certain girls' beds. I go soft trying to get the condom on.
The solution is, I flip us over so I'm on my back and she's on top, and I just tell her to play with my dick. They usually rub it on her vagina (I realize this risky) and I grab her tits. I'll get hard again, and she can put the condom on and slide it in her pussy and then we're off to the races.
As an aside, someone on the reddit TRP gave some advice years ago and I followed it and have rocked a lot of girls' worlds. The advice was to get a bed that's low to the ground. Then you get a girl in doggie position on the corner of the bed, and you're standing up on the floor, railing her. For whatever reason, that works way better than kneeling behind her for doggie.
The second piece of advice is mental. If I'm not especially physically attracted to a girl, I take the opportunity to experiment with/get practice being dominant (maybe this is what you meant in your title).
Basically, if she's fatter than I thought, or her tits are floppy, I just start ordering her around. If she complies (they usually do), the submissiveness is enough to get me in the mood. If she doesn't, it's "peace; out" because my dick is telling me it's not worth the effort.
So this is how I got my first experience with stuff like, peeing on a girls, or butt stuff, or even just making them wear lingerie. I was pathetically beta before TRP and had no idea how many girls love this stuff, and I was coming off as boring.
Hope some of that helps a little.